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The Young Adult and I: Around the World in 18 Days (Mostly Europe)

The young adult and I are riding in the back of a van that serves as our taxi. The sun is setting as we make the long transfer from Istanbul’s airport to the Sultanahmet (old town). We talk while snacking on Storck Chocolate Riesen and Haribo gummy bears that we picked up at a ReWe in Gießen, Germany. There is a brief pause in the conversation, and then the young adult flashes the broad smile he flashes when a great idea comes into his head. After a brief moment, he says that he wants to offer our driver some of our candy. His eyes shift to the right as the thought develops more fully. “We should make sure it’s Halal,” he says. We google the items to try to figure out if they are Halal. They appear not to be. I offer that I still have some Pay Day candy bars in my backpack that we brought with us from the States. A quick Google search tells us those are Halal.

We arrive at the hotel after dark. The young adult hops out of the van, grins from ear to ear at the driver, and gives him a Pay Day, saying, “This is a candy bar from the United States. It’s good. You’ll like it. It’s Halal, too, so you can eat it if you follow a Halal diet.” The driver smiles, accepts the candy bar, offers a word of thanks, and drives away after carrying our luggage into the hotel. It’s another act of kindness that would never cross most minds (including mine) and that has an extra bit of thoughtfulness that makes the small act of giving a candy bar something beautiful. Such a kind, kind heart from a 21-year-old young man who has suffered much adversity in his life since early childhood… adversity that would make most people bitter, angry, strung out on drugs. Instead, he has an open heart, an open mind, a warm disposition… and intellectual curiosity that makes him delight in cultures, people, and travel.

The Itinerary

My big summer travel goal this year was to visit 2 brothers – one in Gießen, Germany, and one near Bangkok. They are the youngest and oldest of a set of four brothers I have known for around 20 years – since the youngest was around 6 and the oldest was around 12. When I moved to my current area of the US, I did not know a soul; the parents of the boys took me under their wing. I ate lunch with them every Sunday after church and was often invited to their home for meals and other activities. The parents are kind, wonderful people who not surprisingly raised kind, wonderful sons.

Stops in Germany and Thailand made for a trip that was ripe for circumnavigating the globe. I offered the young adult, with whom I have previously traveled, the chance to join me, and he eagerly accepted. The young adult and I arrived at an itinerary that included the following:

  • Amsterdam x 2 nights to visit the young adult’s cousin and her husband
  • Berlin x 4 nights to see some sights we missed during our 2022 visit there and to stay with our favorite B&B owner
  • Gießen x 2 nights
  • Istanbul x 4 nights because we both had wanted to see Istanbul for a while
  • Bangkok and environs x 2.5 nights

It was a very people-oriented itinerary that lines up nicely with my travel philosophy: “Sights are cool. People are cooler.”

The Travelers

I am a professional in my early 50’s. and the young adult, as mentioned above, is 21. I first met the young adult nearly 10 years ago through my work and have come to know him and his family well.

In 2021, the young adult had an unfortunate hand injury that nearly cost him a finger. It happened right before he was to start undergraduate studies at the military college of his dreams – a college that would allow him to enter the Air Force as an officer, which was another dream. The working-class teen was able to attend the school because it granted him a full scholarship that was awarded to only one incoming student per year who demonstrated an exemplary interest in the military. The college deferred his admission due to the injury.

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Knowing the teen’s interests and wanting to offer some consolation for his deferment, I offered to take him to the North Carolina coast for a re-enactment of a candy drop from the Berlin Airlift that I attended every year. There, he could meet 100-year-old retired US Air Force Colonel Gail Halvorsen (the man who began dropping candy to kids in Berlin) and an 80-year-old woman who caught candy as a child in Berlin. He could also take a short flight in a 1940’s-era C-54 that was used in the Airlift. He accepted the offer. During the trip, we got along well, played a lot of chess, and, by the time we were on our flight home, started playing with the idea of a 2022 trip to Normandy & Berlin, which came to fruition and was followed by a couple of 2023 trips.

AMSTERDAM

For our first night in Amsterdam, I found an English improv comedy show at a comedy club called Boom Chicago. The young adult and I enjoy comedy shows and the cousin’s husband was interested, too (the cousin had to work). The young adult is gregarious and has a great sense of humor; he tends to make himself known at comedy shows. I paid a little extra for good seats, and our party of 3 ended up being seated at the table that was front row center. The young adult was an eager contributor to a great show, and his enthusiasm seemed endearing to the performers, who came to know him by name. After the show, we exited the building, and we saw one of the comedians taking a smoke break as he silently watched the crowd pass by. He made eye contact with us, smiled, and said, “Goodnight, [young adult].”

  • Highlight #1: Saturday markets in Haarlem. There were all sorts of things to see at the markets. We ate stroopwafel fresh off a grill and enjoyed fresh savory pastries. And then there were the organic handmade chocolates. Mmmm… it was all so tasty.
  • Highlight #2: Private tour of Rijksmuseum with Context Travel. Stupid expensive, to be honest. But given our short time in Amsterdam, it was worth it to have a curated trip through the museum. It was the first art tour for the young adult, his cousin, and her husband (my treat). Everyone loved it. The Context guide, as always, was excellent.
  • Highlight #3: Museum Market. On the third Sunday of every month, there is an art market outside the Rijksmusuem. It was pretty cool. I picked up a leather wallet to replace the one that was disintegrating in my pocket. The young adult picked up an artisan-made stuffed animal for one of his young nephews.
  • Lowlight: Street urinals. The street urinals provide enough cover that you are not totally exposed but not so much that you are comfortable using them. I really, really, really had to go.
  • Memorable Food: Seoul Food. Excellent Korean food in Amsterdam. Loved it. We also got a couple of home-cooked meals. Yay! A spicy breakfast bowl one morning. A vegetarian curry one evening. Yummy.
  • Lodging: The home of the cousin and her husband in Haarlem. Very hospitable. I would recommend it! But only if you know them.
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BERLIN

Sabine is the owner of mittendrin, a 4-bedroom B&B a couple of blocks away from the Kaiser Wilhelm Memorial Church. Fifty-seven of my 58 nights in Berlin have been spent there. Sabine invited the young adult and I to go to dinner with her and an older male friend of hers (in his 60’s). We had mezza at a Greek restaurant named Taverna Ouisa, and in typical German “going out to dinner” form, the meal lasted from about 5:30 pm to 9:30 pm. Great food. Great wine. Great company. A lot of laughs. The young adult’s conversation sometimes veered into things like gory military history, guns, deer meat processing plants. When he got too deep into it, Sabine would say, “Flowers! I want to talk about flowers!” The young adult would talk about tulips briefly and then veer back into another dark topic.

The end of the meal came and when it was time to depart, the young adult, who is not a hugger, smiled at Sabine’s friend with the “great idea” smile and hugged him. When we got out of the taxi at the B&B, Sabine said that she was so glad her friend seemed to have a good time because he had turned inward, had seemed really down, and did not go out much anymore (though he didn’t seem that way at all at dinner). I never asked the young adult why he hugged the man, but I think he just intuited that the man needed a hug.

  • Highlight #1: Tour with Robert Sommer with the theme of “The DDR: From the Dream of Communism to Neonazi Violence.” In the interest of brevity, I will link the recent short recommendation I did for Robert on this forum that includes a description of this tour, which was an astoundingly good tour with an astoundingly great guide.
  • Highlight #2: Forum member MarkK. Mark graciously met me for breakfast, shared his story of growing up in West Berlin, and gave me a driving tour of West Berlin. I hope he doesn’t mind me saying that he grew a little misty-eyed when sharing his memory of the night the Berlin Wall fell. Thanks, Mark! It was a great morning.
  • Highlight #3: The Soviet Memorial at Treptower Park. This enormous Soviet Memorial includes, among other things, a gigantic statue of a Russian soldier holding a German child with a crushed swastika under his foot. The statue sits atop a mass grave for 7,000 Soviet troops who died during the Battle of Berlin. The young adult enjoyed this stop quite a bit.
  • Highlight #4: The Völkerschlachtdenkmal aka the Monument to the Battle of the Nations. We did a day trip to Leipzig to see this enormous, Lord-of-the-Rings caliber monument that memorializes the defeat of Napoleon at Leipzig. I had been there previously and was confident the young adult would love it. He did indeed love it.
  • Highlight #5: Mozart’s Don Giovanni at the Staatsoper Unter den Linden. A well-done opera in a classic venue. Our seats were in the back row of the first balcony; we tried to slide out quietly during the standing ovation. The young adult missed a stair, fell loudly, and whacked his head on a bannister. Someone loudly exclaimed, “Ooofff.” Happily, the young adult was fine.
  • Highlight #6: Dussman das KulturKaufhaus.. For those into bookstores, a great stop. It’s huge! Five stories. It’s not one of those atmospheric used book shops; it’s all new stuff. But I really liked it. Dussman is open late and was a nice place to visit post-opera.
  • Memorable food: Taverna Ousia offered very good Greek food in a very nice environment for our meal with Sabine. 1987 Xigon is a hip Asian fusion place near the B&B. Trendy crowd. What is delivered to the table is part food, part performance art. Bullete and Apfelschorle at a butcher shop in the medieval village of Marzahn.
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  • Lodging #1: Mittendrin. As noted above, a small B&B in an early 1900’s era building. Amazing breakfast. No a/c. We spent 3 of 4 nights here.
  • Lodging #2: Motel One Berlin Upper West. My goodness, what a good hotel. The 10th floor lounge has a large outdoor space with great views over Berlin. This was my 8th Motel One, and it was the best one so far. It was the perfect place for a one-night stay, especially since it was about an 8-minute walk from the B&B and very close to the Zoo train station.

GIEẞEN

Like many German towns, Gießen has a castle. We got there late in the day, and the tower of the castle was already closed. Our host, we’ll call him Brother #1, spoke in German with an older lady at the visitors desk; she took us to a room where there was a large model of Gießen. She talked to us in English about the town. The young adult listened intently and asked questions. Afterward, the three of us wandered around the small museum within the castle. We started to leave, but the lady at the front desk told us not to leave and produced the key to the tower. She had obtained approval from her superior to open the tower especially for us. She did not want the Americans to leave without a chance to climb to its top!

  • Highlight #1: Hanging out with Brother #1 and his wife at their apartment. This was a lot of fun. We filled the time playing cards. The young adult and I taught the couple to play Hand and Foot, which is a great card game. A day or two after we departed, Brother #1 sent us a photo of him and his wife playing the game with their German friends! On the second night after cards, we walked to a nearby lakeside beer garden and just sat and talked until late into the night. Of note the establishment had changed the name of its Moscow Mule to Kyev Mule. I got to share with Brother #1’s wife old stories about Brother #1; once again, there was a lot of laughing; and I couldn’t let the night end without telling Brother #1 and his wife how proud I am of them individually and as a couple for whom they have become.
  • Highlight #2: Day trip to Frankfurt. We did a private tour in Frankfurt. Sadly, Ms Jo was not available, so we had to use another company. Our guide was fine, but she was no Ms Jo.
  • Memorable food: There was another home-cooked meal for the weary travelers. Yay! The young adult and I ate casseroles typical for the area around Gießen at Basilico. We had a very nice, fresh, healthy breakfast at News Café.
  • Lodging: Hotel B&B. We stayed at this chain hotel that Brother #1 described as similar to Hampton Inn. That was fairly accurate. Clean. Simple. It’s certainly no Motel One, but I would stay at the chain again if I was having trouble finding a place with a little more character.

ISTANBUL

The teen started the trip with a well-worn pleather jacket that was about 10 years old. The “leather” surface was flaking off its backing badly. It looked pretty rough. So, in the spirit of getting something on a trip that is useful as a memento instead of some trinket, the young adult bought a sharp-looking leather jacket in Berlin. Though the old jacket was well-worn, the young adult still felt it would provide warmth to someone in need. He looked for someone to whom to give the old jacket on the streets of Berlin but had no luck. The jacket made it to Istanbul with us, and the young adult asked the front desk guy at the hotel if there might be a spot in a mosque where he could leave the jacket for someone who might want it when times are colder. The front desk guy advised against that but said that it is common to leave things like that around trash receptacles for people in need to take. The young adult left the jacket in such a spot, and we returned to the spot a couple of hours later to find that it was gone.

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  • Highlight #1: Two Days of Touring with Metin Koca. Very good guide. For our first day, he volunteered to stand in line early at the Hagia Sophia so that we could have first entry. The young adult and I decided to join him early in line instead of making him wait on his own. It was AWESOME being the first visitors to enter the Hagia Sophia and seeing it for a short time before it was overrun by other visitors. In our two days with Metin, we saw popular to not-so-popular mosques, the main old cistern, the old walls of the city, Topkapi Palace, and other things. It was a very good experience.
  • Highlight #2: Two Continents Food Tour with Yummy Istanbul. This was a 6-hour food tour that was done with 8 other people. We had a great guide. Many stops and many tastes. Excellent. Highly recommended!
  • Highlight #3: Getting scammed. The young adult and I did not realize the dropped item scam was a thing. A guy carrying shoe cleaning stuff dropped his brush in front of us. Being the kind Southerners we are, we picked it up and gave it to him. Then there was insistence on a shoe cleaning. Then there was a demand for money. Then there was hurried running as he yelled at us and chased us. Just kidding. I offered him the few Turkish lira I had, but he was not satisfied, so I gave him some Euro, too. The young adult was very annoyed that we got scammed. While I don’t like being scammed, I’m also of the opinion that if someone needs to scam me for a few euros, he probably needs the money more than I do. I had one other rationalization for the loss of money that our guide Metin very much appreciated when we told him about the experience… Allah willed it.
  • Highlight #4: The Young Adult’s Night Out. The young adult and I ate dinner and/or played cards pretty much every night in the casual rooftop restaurant at our hotel. We got to know our young server well, and the young server ended up taking the young adult to hang out on the Asia side of Istanbul where young people hang out. The young adult enjoyed the opportunity to hang out with people his age (as he did in Poland last year).
  • Memorable food: Marmara View Restaurant. Our go-to restaurant every night at the hotel. The views of Hagia Sophia, the Blue Mosque, and the Bosphorus are gorgeous. Food is good. I would definitely recommend.
  • Memorable Beverage: Turkish Tea. I have to say the Turkish tea beat out the more well-known Turkish coffee for both the young adult and I, though we enjoyed both.
  • Lodging: The Magnaura Palace Hotel. Located in the old town. Very helpful staff. Clean rooms. Huge breakfast buffet. Did I mention the view from the rooftop? An excellent experience.

BANGKOK

The young adult and I were nearing the end of a small group tour on our last day in Thailand, and a train we needed to catch with the group was arriving at the stop where we were waiting. The young adult looked up and saw an elderly Thai woman weighed down with two large bags headed toward the train. It appeared doubtful that she was going to make the train. The young adult sprinted to her, indicated he could carry her bags for her, grabbed her bags and raced to the train with her in tow. Meanwhile, I stood with one foot on the train and one on the ground to try to keep the train from leaving. I got a brief chiding from a train employee, but then he (as well as others on the train) followed my line of vision to the young adult and the elderly woman. Both the young adult and the elderly woman successfully boarded the train. The young adult got cheers and pats on the back from the Thai men on the train.

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  • Highlight #1: Hanging out with brother #2, his wife, and his two children at their condo. Dinner. Games. Young adult throwing toddlers in the air, much to their delight. Great fun. I asked brother #2 and his wife what they thought of the young adult the next day as we toured Bangkok’s “big sites” like the Grand Palace. Without hesitation and with huge smiles, they answered, “We love him!”
  • Highlight #2: Thai Massage. Brother #2 and his wife wanted to introduce the young adult and I to the world of Thai massage. My massage was a little brutal despite my masseuse going easy on me because of my age. The massage ended in a sitting position with a masseuse sitting behind me. I got some stretching and popping/cracking, but I saw out of the corner of my eye that the young adult’s torso and arms were being spun in all sorts of directions by his masseuse (he was on the mat next to me). He was sore for days after the massage. While the young adult appreciated the tea at the end of the experience, he was not a fan of Thai massage.
  • Highlight #3: Hanging out after dark on the 29th floor rooftop terrace at our Bangkok hotel (SO Bangkok) with Brother #2 and his wife. More stories were shared. More laughs had. And it was a good opportunity to tell Brother #2 and his wife how proud I am of them for successfully making the move to Bangkok and for being the kind souls they are.
  • Highlight #4: Bangkok Vanguards Tour. On our final day in Bangkok, the four of us did the Bangkok Vanguards’ Three Sixty tour with guide Michael and two other participants who were from Australia. It was one of the best tours I have ever done. Nothing but off-the-beaten-tourist-path sights. Again, for the sake of brevity, I will post this link to another post here on the forum regarding it.
  • Memorable food: Another home cooked meal. Yay! House help is still a thing in Bangkok apparently. Brother #2’s housekeeper and his nanny made some Thai dishes for us for dinner. Very good. Then there was Na-Oh Bangkok. A restaurant inside a decommissioned airplane that sits in the middle of a market. The restaurant offers a standard 7-course meal on the weekend, and we much enjoyed our food. Service was great. Food was great. The rat that scampered across the plane/restaurant when we first arrived… well, he was not so great, but we didn’t let him get us down! Then there was Seoul Korean Dessert Café. Oh my. Brother #2 and his wife were eager to introduce us to this place near their condo. The four of us shared a couple of enormous shaved ice desserts – one fruit, one Oreo/chocolate. Delicious.
  • Hotel #1: Symphony of the Sea Hotel, Saensuk Meung. This was a really nice hotel on the beach that was a block or two away from the condo of brother #2 and his wife. It was a good location for that but there was not a lot around otherwise. Great breakfast.
  • Hotel #2: SO/Bangkok. This was a bit of a splurge hotel for the one and only night we slept in Bangkok. The kicker was that our flight out of Bangkok left at 11:30 pm the next night. The young adult and I virtually always stay in separate rooms – I figure it’s probably good for both of us to have a break from each other at night. I got one room for one night and the second room for 2 nights so that we could shower after a day of sightseeing in hot, humid Bangkok before heading to the airport after dark. Brilliant idea. We would have been miserable starting the long journey home without a shower. We had great views over the city from our rooms, and the rooftop lounge, as mentioned above, had even better views.
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Conclusion

Our driver departs our Istanbul hotel, and we stand at guest registration. As we register, I ask if we can go up to the rooftop at that late hour. The gentleman at the desk says, “Of course. And there is a restaurant there now, too.” We finish check in and drop our bags at our rooms before heading up to the hotel’s rooftop, which was the reason I picked the hotel, to be honest. The young adult is unaware of the rooftop – surprises are nice on trips. We take the elevator up to the restaurant, walk up a flight of stairs to get to the rooftop, and walk out a door to get our first proper glimpse of Istanbul. The illuminated Hagia Sophia and Blue Mosque are the stars of a panoramic view that is magnificent – far beyond what I imagined. Endorphins flow. We can’t stop pointing, talking, smiling, laughing, enjoying the view. The phrase “That’s so cool” was way overused. It was my favorite moment of the trip… a favorite travel moment… a favorite life moment... to share this particularly gorgeous view of a big, big world with the brilliant, kind young man from a small, small Southern town.

It was a great trip… a trip that never happens, though, without the 2021 trip to North Carolina that was planned as a one-off event. I just recently learned that as the young adult (then teen) left the office after I made the offer in 2021, he told his Nana that he didn’t think he would go because he was “not the traveling type;” indeed, at that time, he was the type who stayed in his room most of the time playing video games. Nana told him, “I think you should go.” He adores Nana, the rock-solid pillar of strength throughout his chaotic life, and so he followed her advice. The non-travel-type teenager has evolved into a travel-loving young adult who has been to France, Germany, the Netherlands, Poland, Bosnia & Herzegovina, Croatia, Austria, Turkey, Thailand, and Canada. Like the young adult, I adore Nana – not only for opening the world to him with a gentle sentence of encouragement, but for being so exceptionally good to him throughout his life.

I wish I could report that the young adult is returning to the military college this fall for his junior year, but unfortunately, the military school ultimately decided the hand injury was too great to allow participation in its program and gave the young adult a "medical discharge" that prevented him from entering the school. A dream lost. Another crushing blow.

Amazingly, the young adult continues to smile…to be kind… to reach out to others… to touch lives. His outgoing personality is a good example for this anxious introvert, and I have pushed myself to use the social skills he models in my professional and personal life. I am better at my job, am a better traveler, and have a richer life because of what the young adult has taught me. I’m grateful for him, and, as with the 2 brothers, I took time on this trip to tell him how proud I am of him... which I tell him all the time... perhaps to the point of annoying him.

The Closing Travel Window

The young adult has many young adult tasks he needs to accomplish… tasks that likely will preclude travel for the next few years and will hopefully, among other things, produce a love-struck partner with whom he can share his life and with whom he can explore the world. And so, we both realize our window for traveling together is closing. Our unlikely friendship, however, continues. In fact, the young adult called the other night with a problem; at the end of the call, he said, “Dave, I think we’ll always be friends.” I agreed.

Sights are cool. People are cooler. The young adult? He’s one of the coolest.

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What a special trip report! Thanks for sharing! It sounds like the "young adult" really needs people like you in his life.

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It always brings a smile to my face when I see a post from you about your travels with the young adult. Your writing is spectacular and really brings the story to "life." Thank you for sharing.

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What an interesting, heartwarming and uplifting report. Thanks so much for sharing.

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Oh the stories he will tell one day to his love struck partner of the kind and generous traveler who opened his eyes to the world and helped him see himself as the traveling type.

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Lovely. We should all be so fortunate to have such a relationship with an unrelated 21 year old or vice versa. We can at least try...

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Wow, I can't recall becoming teary eyed over a trip report before.

I'll be in Istanbul later this summer and have a few questions. How early did you need to get in line for Hagia Sophia? Any tips for Blue Mosque and did you go to Kariye Mosque/Chora Church?

Did you use a service to get from the airport?

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I've destroyed a couple of Kleenex over this report. (sniffle)

You are a rare individual and so deserving of a Young Adult such as yours in your life, as he is deserving of his Dave. The reports of your adventures have been a delight and I hope this one is far from the last. It's impossible not to feel shattered for Y.A. about having been denied his college entrance/scholarship - i'm guessing the scholarship was badly needed for being able to afford college - but we'll hope "when one door closes, another opens" is true in his case!

You two should collaborate on a book together. Title? "The Young Adult and I". :O)

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I absolutely loved reading this trip report! You have such a flair for writing, Dave. I, too, shed a few tears while reading this and hope that you and the young adult will be able to travel again together in the future. He sounds like a very special young man.

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cala -- I'm close enough to the young adult's family that I get invited to their family gatherings. A couple of years ago, I took a lady whom I was kind of sort of dating (or at least gauging my interest in dating) to the young adult's family Thanksgiving dinner. She told me afterward that she was talking to the young adult's dad as the young adult and I were doing something together. She said they looked at us, and the young adult's dad said something like the two of us were good for each other. To be honest, that doesn't sound like the young adults' father's voice, so I wonder if she just made it up. But... it's true that benefit goes both ways.

Ginger -- Glad I brought a smile to your face. Thanks for the kind words about my writing.

Carroll-- Glad to share!

CWsocial -- That's a very kind comment. Thanks!

Wray -- Easier for me because I have no kids -- harder to do for people who have their own kids.

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jules --

My trip reports with the young adult tend toward the sentimental. He's such a neat, neat person.

We arrived at the ticket window of Haiga Sophia about 7:30 am; the ticket window and visitor's entrance opened at 8:00 am. If the queue is not up yet (it was not when we arrived), then stand in front of the window to the right. The employees will guide you into the queue that is placed just to the right of that window when they start putting it up.

We went to the Blue Mosque immediately after visiting the Haiga Sophia -- it has a quickly-moving queue.

We queued early for Topkapi Palace another day -- opening was at 9:00 -- we queued at 8:45. It helped to have a jump on the crowd there, too.

We did not go to Chora Church/Kariye Mosque.

Our hotel arranged transfers to and from the airport for us.

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Dave, Thanks for the added info! I completely understand your focus on your trip reports.

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I sometimes laugh at the humor in trip reports but I don’t ever remember crying.
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story and experience with us.
Whether you travel together again in the near future or not, I know that you will continue to enrich each other’s lives.
Blessings to both of you.

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Kathy --

Glad you have enjoyed the reports of our travel adventures. I would love to get the young adult to write a trip report of one of our trips... would be interesting to get his perspective... and to see how he titles it... The Middle-Aged Balding Dude and I?

It's impossible not to feel shattered for Y.A. about having been
denied his college entrance/scholarship - i'm guessing the scholarship
was badly needed for being able to afford college - but we'll hope
"when one door closes, another opens" is true in his case!

Thanks for your concern. Yes, another door is opening...

Sherry --

Thank you for the nice comments. We'll see what happens with future travel. He is indeed a great young man.

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Dave,

Fantastic trip report. Great balance of trip report and personal reflections. Really enjoyed that format.

Please keep writing!

-- Mike Beebe

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Dave, this is the sweetest trip report I have ever read. It says so much good about your character and the young adult’s compassion. Tears of joy are running down my face. Thank you!
Kathy

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I agree with the others who found this trip report to be special, not just about the trip, but probably more so about the relationship you and the young adult have. Yes, you have a flair for writing. I think it would be interesting for you and the young adult to co-write a book, each from your own perspectives. I would definitely buy it.

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SharYn -- Thanks for the kind comments. Do you remember way back in 2018 when you encouraged me to write an angry version and a true version of a short trip to Germany that had some misadventures in it?

Mike -- Thanks for your kind comments, too. My trip report style was heavily influenced by the 2018 thread What Makes a Good Trip Report? in which one Mike Beebe was held up as a glowing example of good trip report writing. The biggest influence on me from that thread was the person who posted this:

I like it when a Writer does not approach a subject in a linear
fashion. In other words start with an incident halfway through the
trip then flash back later to the beginning to illustrate how you got
there. Humour and self deprecation is good and I think that a critical
analysis of not just the good but the bad is very important

Horsewoofie -- Thanks for your kinds words, too. I'm glad you enjoyed the trip report.

Andrea -- I appreciate your comments. The older I get, the more relational all of life becomes, including travel. It would be cool to write a book, though the real story here is the young adult. A screenplay based on his life would make a great independent film, though we're still kind of waiting for the ending to declare itself.

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Another wonderful account of your travels with the young adult, thank you for writing it and putting out in the universe. I too would buy the book or watch the movie, no matter that the end is not yet written, the journey is the interesting bit. Many thanks for substantially improving my day with a good story.

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Thanks for the great trip report. Am so sad to have missed you when you were here.
Attended the 75th Anniversary of the Airlift in Wiesbaden a couple of weeks ago and have also joined the Berlin Airlift association. Amazing group of people and it lets me indulge in my passion, talking about the airlift to those who have never heard of it. The candy drop was fun.
Was so pleased that I got to meet Gayle back in 2008 when he came to an event here at the Consulate. Shook his hand, got his autograph and met other pilots and aircrew as well as those who had caught candy.

Hope you come back this was again sometime soon. We want more of your trip reports.

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Dear Dave - Thank you once again. When I see one of your titles show up in the list of posts, I know it is going to be one to savor.

Thank you for the investment you are making in this young person. You are doing so much good in this world: taking him on these trips, helping build him up. Then in another way, sharing them with us. This is completely parochial on my part, but I derive such enjoyment from reading your write-ups and seeing the world through his and your eyes, and being reminded that there are such good people in our world. I don’t know how to express my gratitude that you are also giving a gift to your Forum “counterparts,” but that is easily seen in the multitude of responses to this latest report.

I am bookmarking this for your Istanbul hotel ! And the way you travel, really pulling the most from each place by hiring experienced guides, is a real inspiration too.

The fact that the Young Adult had this hand injury and the school withdrew his scholarship offer is heartbreaking. I hope that another solution will manifest.

Thank you again for 1) doing this and 2) taking the time to share it with us. It’s a real privilege to be taken along aside y’all.

Also, the humor !!! Loved this, for example:

Lodging: The home of the cousin and her husband in Haarlem. Very hospitable. I would recommend it! But only if you know them.

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CL — Thanks for more kind words. I’m glad the trip report made your day better!

Ms Jo — I’m sorry we missed you, too. There are probably multiple Berlin Airlift associations. The Berlin Airlift Historical Foundation is a great organization here in the US. It is part of the North Carolina candy drop every year. Tim Chopp (founder, pilot) is a great and interesting guy. I like him a lot.

Kim — I always look forward to your comments. They are something for me to savor. I got a little misty-eyed reading your thoughts. It’s my pleasure to share my travels with the young adult.

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My goodness, Dave, wonderful trip report, thank you for telling it all so beautifully. You sir, are a writer. I started hearing ‘Graceland’ in my mind as I was reading. ‘Poor boys and pilgrims with families …….I’ve reason to believe we both will be received in Graceland’. You express so well what travel can truly be.

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Great report as always Dave. I find it challenging to relate to my son of a similar age, and here you go literally around the world with your young adult. I have no doubt that these trips, regardless of the ups and downs in his life are significant and meaningful to him.

One question. How did travel logistics turn out in terms of making connections, the trains, airplanes, etc.

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Lyndash --. Thanks for the kind comment

Rob -- We've already talked about the connections :)

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Your style of writing is incredible. Please write a book so it can be made into a movie! Such a moving account of your relationship with the Young adult. You opened a door and gave a young adult a wonderful opportunity to see the world. Now I want to go to Berlin.

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Am I the only want that wants to see a travel memoir "The Young Adult and I" published?

Dave, I always love reading your reports.

edit: Kathy beat me to it. :-)

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mps -- Thanks for the kind words. Go see Berlin! It's awesome.

Mary -- I'm glad you enjoy my trip reports. I guess I need to get hopping on that book!

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Yes, Dave, I too enjoy your writing style and world view.

Have bookmarked this to re read the instanbuhl portion as I prepare for a trip to turkiye/Greece this fall.

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What a beautiful, heartwarming trip report! The cost of the young man's hand injury is heartbreaking...but then an intelligent young adult like him with so many good qualities will be successful in whatever he decides to do. Best wishes to him.

Questions about Istanbul: we travel on our own in Europe and Asia (Japan and Taiwan mostly), not with a tour; we went with private packaged tours in Morocco, Egypt and Peru. Is Istanbul a place to DIY easily? Looks like it to me, I would definitely hire private guides. I am looking for a place (one city) to spend xmas and new year holiday break at. We have been to London and Rome for Xmas and New years...eyeing Istanbul as my next target place because it seems like a place to keep us busy for 7-8 days.
Thank you.

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leeshao--

Glad you enjoyed the trip report!

The entire trip was planned/organized by me. I found all the guides on my own.

So... Istanbul is very doable as a DIY city, and I would expect that you could get 7-8 days out of it without much trouble.

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Would you share the names of the guides you used in Istanbul? Where is your source for finding good guides? How far ahead do you recommend booking guides (especially the popular ones).-Thank you!

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Would you share the names of the guides you used in Istanbul?

Metin Koca was our guide in Istanbul. We used him for 2 days, which allowed us to see more than just the "greatest hits" of Istanbul. If your use him, I highly, highly, highly recommend following his recommendations on which sites to hit early... especially Hagia Sophia. I initially found him due to a recommendation here on the RS website in an Istanbul trip report. I did my due diligence to look for him in other places to see what other peope had to say. For example, here is the Trip Advisor site for seeing others' reviews of him: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attraction_Review-g293974-d15220257-Reviews-Tour_Guide_Metin_Koca-Istanbul.html, but DON'T USE TA TO BOOK TOURS (TA charges a "finder's fee" that gets passed on to the customer). I found an e-mail address for him and booked directly: [email protected].

For the food tour we used Yummy Istanbul, which was also recommended in a trip review on this site: https://yummyistanbul.com/

Where is your source for finding good guides?

I have multiple sources. Recommendations on this site by people with a good track record of posts (NOT people with a 1 or 2 post history). Context Travel always has great local guides, but it has become ridiculously expensive. I google "[destination] private guide" and wade through all the global tour companies that pay to have higher placement to find someone with a local website who looks like a gem. I look at the Tours by Locals site to try to find a guide -- often I can find enough info there to find the guide's private website where I can book for a substantially lower price (TBL takes about a 30% "finder's fee" for tours they book). A decade ago, I used TripAdvisor a lot, but that website has made it substantially harder to find guides -- they are heavily, heavily focused on selling tours. If staying at a small establishment, I will sometimes ask the owner for a recommendation ahead of the trip. I also watch a lot of YouTube videos and read a lot of travel blogs on destinations during my research. That's how I found the Bangkok 360 tour, which was easily one of the best tour I have done out of dozens and dozens of tours.

How far ahead do you recommend booking guides (especially the popular
ones)

I was able to book Metin about a month ahead of the trip. I usually try to book earlier than that (maybe 2-3 months?), especially in higher-demand destinations. There is one VERY popular guide in Normandy who is fully booked a year in advance... couldn't book with him both times I went to Normandy but got great guides nonetheless.