I have 3 monopole bags that don't bother me at all because they each weigh only 4.5 pounds empty. I limit the packed weight of any bag to 20 pounds and I haven't experienced torqueing.
However, when I looked at the 2 bags that you listed and saw that they only weighed about 5 pounds each empty and have a U-shaped handle, I thought, hmmmm?! That's a very reasonable empty weight and the ability to put a personal item with a sleeve over the handle is a definite advantage. ✅️
Besides grab handles, something else I look for is how the handle rods are covered inside the bag.
The Expanse has a cover that has a zipper. That means you can unzip it, put stuff on either side of and between the rods to fill up the depth of the rods and flatten the packing surface. I aways pack with compression cubes, but I've used that space for relatively flat things like maps, paper work, socks, scarves, etc.
Here's a link to the Expanse which has a good picture of that interior.
It was harder to find a picture of the same area for the Osprey, but there is one here. You can see that the back and rods have a very tight fitting liner, so you can fill in those spaces around the rods more easily, in a similar way or not. The backpack straps might be useful for you, and from the pictures it looks like they expect them to be used as handles somehow in addition to the pull handle and the front base.
On my last trip, I used a 38L Osprey Ozone Global monopole bag, 20h x 16w x 8d, that was easier to pack than my other slightly larger bags due to its square shape. Both the Expanse and the Daylite are square. ✅️
One thing I discovered with my old Eagle Creek international expandable bag is that I could open the expansion zipper, pack and then close the expansion zipper. I'm sure the Expanse would work the same way.
There is a very big price difference between these bags. That does make the decision tougher. 🥴 Hopefully you can find a better price on the Expanse than what most vendors are showing.