Please let us know about a friendly place you've stayed at.
In 2022, we stayed at DeVergulden Eenhoorn. We booked via booking.com We were very happy with our stay, the host (Deen) and the area in general. It was also very convenient to public transportation.
We've stayed at Hotel Jakarta twice this year. https://hoteljakarta.com/ it's not in the central tourist zone but it's on a bus route and close to a tram route or a 20 minute walk to Centraal Station. Service is outstanding and the breakfast is even better.
Next time we're in the neighbourhood though we're going to stay in Leiden which is about a 15 minute train from the airport. The city is a gem and much nicer than Amsterdam. We stayed at Breathe Hotel. https://www.breathehotelleiden.nl/en
We really loved The Toren and the location was fantastic!
There's a section of the Forum dedicated to reviews of hotels and restaurants in the Netherlands:
https://community.ricksteves.com/travel-forum/netherlands-reviews
Here is a review I wrote of Hotel Nadia, where the staff were very friendly:
https://community.ricksteves.com/travel-forum/netherlands-reviews/hotel-nadia-recommendation-with-lots-of-caveats