First of all, thank you for anyone who posts their thoughts on this. Also, I've searched but cannot find any posts addressing my question but if so, apologies.
My wife and I are planning a trip to Italy and we're targeting the last part of April - first part of May 2020 for a 12-14 day trip from the US. Amalfi Coast has been on our bucket list and so has Tuscany. We want to beat the crowds that people talk/warn about in the Summer. So our choices are Spring or Fall. A bit about what we like to do. While we will visit a museum, churches, etc - my wifes goal is to have a laid back and relaxing vacation. "Getting bored" for a week on the Amalfi Coast isn't a concern of hers. She wants to chill. While I like to hike, etc I dont think we will be doing things like that as she's a cancer survivor and she doesnt have the stamina - yes, I know Amalfi Coast has tons of stairs. She's wanting to go so bad she will "will herself" to traverse the steps. We also want to go to Tuscany. CONVERSELY - Venice is on my wife's (and mine) bucket list. Would a Venice/Tuscany/Rome trip make more sense?
Need agenda advice: We fly into and out of Rome. Rent a car for the entire trip. Fly into Rome then drive to Amalfi Coast and stay for 6 nights. Drive to Rome and stay on way to Tuscany and stay in Rome for 2 nights then to Tuscany (basing somewhere there) for the rest of the time but flying out of Rome. It doesn't leave much time in Tuscany so we may cut out the Rome days. Any thoughts or general advice on the itinerary? My wife thinks she wont like Rome but all our friends say that Rome is amazing and don't cut it out of the itinerary.
I read there is always a risk in April/Early May for rainy weather and it can get cold. Do you have a strong opinion that we should push to late Sept/early Oct for weather, etc?
We have been to Milan for two days when we were in Bavaria for 2 weeks - we rented a car and drove through Bellagio - loved it. So, I'm okay to drive the crazy Italian roads. Rent a car the entire trip?
We love food and we love to basically have no agenda. However, we typically will pay more for a better view or location. On this trip, in Amalfi, I may pay to stay in a nice hotel since it's our 50th and because the next few years we will have some weddings to pay for. So, we may not be able to go to Europe for another 5 years or so.
Thanks for any advice in general on the time of year and the other comments.