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Your Favourite "Slowing Down" Story.

I wrote this long post in reply to a thread in the Turkey Forum. I got caught up in the spirit of a "slowing down" story but realized after posting that my post had nothing to do with the Turkish hammams that the OP and others were discussing. So I thought I would cut and paste and start a new topic.

In 1983, I was a 3rd year university student. My first overseas trip on a plane. I bought a return flight to London and a 2 month Eurail pass. I was going to backpack all of May and June. I had a money belt with a budget of CAD$20 American Express travelers cheque per day. London, Amsterdam, Frankfurt, Munich, Heidelburg, Rothenburg, Vienna, Salzburg, Venice, Padua, Florence, Brindisi, Corfu and Athens and some other stops. That was just the first month. I never stayed more than a 2 to 3 nights, sometimes a few hours, in a city. I just walked to the train station, picked a new destination and hopped on and hopped off the trains. I would meet up with different backpackers, hang out for a few days, go our separate ways and find different companions to travel with.

By the time, I got to Athens, I was at the halfway point of my trip and completely burned out. I was sleeping on a cot on the roof of a hotel, the over flow area for the busy season according to Let's Go. The manager said it was not busy and he had plenty of empty rooms for us. My American companion at the time and I wanted to sleep under the stars for the cheaper price. It was my last night in Athens, a crowded and sprawling city. I was getting a little depressed as I pretended to sleep while my new friend was having sex with a girl on the other side of the roof.

I remembered an incident a few days earlier when I was waiting to board the ferry at Brindisi for Greece. The swarm of passengers came off the ferry and one guy had a really dark tan and sunglasses. I asked "Hey, man, where did you get that tan?" He replied "Skyros. It's an island in the middle of nowhere. You have to check it out. Nothing there but a few goat herders".

The next day, I looked up Skyros in my trusty Let's Go and took the bus to Kymi and a ferry to the island. Only three of us got off the ferry and it turned out we were the only tourists on the whole island. Some old women came running up to us at the dock offering us rooms to rent. A British guy and I decided to share a place.

I ended up spending almost a week on Skyros. I hung out with the Brit and a girl from Hong Kong. I spent my days on the beach. Nothing but sun and silence broken by the odd jet fighter from a nearby air force base.

There were no attractions that I can remember. There was nobody else but locals and free roaming miniature ponies. The island is famous for a dead poet.

I dined in tiny restaurants sometimes with my companions and the odd local. I ate seafood, moussaka and lots of tomato, olive and feta salads. I got really skinny and sun-baked brown. Not much to write about during my stay in Skiros. According to Wikipedia, the population in 1981 was 2,757.

After my week in Skiros, I was completely relaxed and refreshed. I returned to the mainland to resume the second half of my trip. I still had to do the rest of Italy and France and make my way back to London to fly home.

I have never done anything like this since. With work, family, limited time,the internet and the need to deal with travel crowds, most of my travel itineraries are now pre-planned, pre-booked and sometimes pre-paid. Although my current travel philosophy is to prefer to stay in one city and one hotel for longer periods of time, my days in each city are still packed with so many things to see and do. Nowadays, "slowing down" during a trip usually means taking an occasional few hours off after several long and busy days of touring. I sometimes wonder if it would be worthwhile to revisit Skyros again. According to Wikipedia, the population of Skyros in 2021 was still only 3,052.

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I don't do sitting still well so I'm not sure if I could ever take a full week vacation from my vacation. Like funpig's last paragraph, my slowing down is usually an afternoon. I remember in Sorrento in 2023 we did take a full day off and so all we did is a an hour hike to an old Roman Villa, visit a small local museum, and wander Sorrento from one end to the other. Hmm, I don't think our day off was in the spirit of the OP's post.

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In 2009 I visited Oaxaca with my friend B. We spent a few days in Oaxaca de Juarez (the capital city), and that time was packed with activities, which is my usual vacation style. We toured the city, visited Monte Alban and Mitla, and took bus trips to local villages that specialize in handicrafts like alebrijes. B also wanted to visit the coast, which sounded boring to me, but of course it was her vacation, too, so I stayed open to something different.

We rented a room in a B&B in Puerto Escondido for a few days after being in the city. Looking back I think that was my (unexpected) favorite part of our trip. It was hot and humid in PE, so we spent our days just relaxing because we had no energy to do anything else. Each morning we took a cab to a beachfront restaurant under a palapa and lingered for hours over breakfast, just hanging out, watching the waves and chatting. In the afternoons we visited a calm beach cove and then returned to the B&B to swim in the pool and loll under the ceiling fans on the patio. We went to casual restaurants for dinner, then spent the evenings reading and talking. It helped that B is great company: easygoing, can talk about anything, and as a Chicana, fluent in Spanish so she did all the talking with the locals to handle logistics, while I just cruised on easy street with a Jarrito in hand. That vacation was one of my favorites because it was a perfect balance of culture/history and relaxing.

I never traveled like that again. These days I think of paying to chill by a pool as a waste of money and time, but maybe I should give it another shot?

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Well, I am about to find out how I will do when I depart LAX to Sarajevo on 30 June and begin my Retirement Slow Travel adventures. Staying anywhere from 28 - 30 nights in a different country. During my European round this calendar year I will mainly home-base in one city. In November I will spend 5 nights in Cappadocia & 28 nights in Antalya, Turkey. When I hit SE Asia Jan thru Apr 2026, I am looking at mixing it up with 1 to 3 locations in each country for each month I am there. Plan on just strolling through the cities, pick a different location each day. Won't book anything until I am at the location & decide then what do I want to see and or visit.

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I never really understood why Americans always seem to be on the go while on vacation. It wasn't until I met some Americans who moved to Germany that I realized how deeply this "fast-paced" attitude is ingrained in them. They all said it took a while to adjust to the pace of life in Europe. I can imagine that it's not so easy to suddenly slow down. However, everyone also told me that they've gotten used to the feeling of slowness in Europe and wouldn't want to miss it anymore.

I'm definitely someone who's probably even more in "slowing down" mode than other travelers. That's why my favorite story takes place on the Baltic Sea, on the Fischland-Darss-Zingst peninsula. I'm sitting on the west beach, watching the sea, and just thinking nothing.

But check out yourself... I'd happily forget about the Caribbean while sitting there :-) https://www.flickr.com/photos/calabrones/53561675487/in/album-72157666105580044

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...Americans always seem to be on the go while on vacation...

Seems to me to be more a function of age rather than nationality. Young(er) people seem to want to go, go, go all the time despite the fact that they have long lives ahead of them. On the other hand, old(er) folks who have less time left, seem to want to slow down and smell the roses. Just an observation.

In any event, our "slowing down" story is this. Back in the mid 1980's my spouse and I were both working full fime and going to grad school at night. During a break between school terms, we went to a small campground in the North Carolina mountains. For three weeks we only ate, slept, read, and went canoeing every other day or so. No phones, no radios, no tvs, and no newspapers. It was heaven!! We only went into town toward the end of the three weeks to pick up some steaks. Wish we could do it again.

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...Americans always seem to be on the go while on vacation...

Seems to me to be more a function of age rather than nationality.
Young(er) people seem to want to go, go, go all the time despite the
fact that they have long lives ahead of them. On the other hand,
old(er) folks who have less time left, seem to want to slow down and
smell the roses.

I'm not American, or from Europe so maybe I'm clueless. But I don't see it either way. Of the group of friends my wife and I have, we're go, go, go, while another couple have a 2nd home in the middle of nowhere, Alberta that they're perfectly happy going to every weekend and vacation and do nothing. Another couple wants to go to resorts and sit by the pool while being fed drinks, and the final person hikes, kayaks and poops in the woods- average age for us is 60 and while we all are close and would do anything for each other, we could never vacation together. Now there is my daughter and her group of friends.....see above, but average age is 26.

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During a break between school terms, we went to a small campground in the North Carolina mountains. For three weeks we only ate, slept, read, and went canoeing every other day or so. No phones, no radios, no tvs, and no newspapers. It was heaven!!

My wife and I did something similar with friends over a single weekend. For us, it was misery. Everyone has different travel styles and interests.

As a senior citizen, I have many "Slowing Down" stories. None is my favorite; they all stink. :o)

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There is a certain "forced" air about several of these "slow down" stories.

As if they wouldn't be done if not for some external help "forcing" the relaxation.

And Allen's "I don't do sitting still well...".

I'm sensing a theme here. :)

To be able to choose (to relax) for me is/was the goal. I managed to get there a while back. It's come in handy in surprising ways since then.

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I live in a beautiful location with lakes & mountains, so I have an environment of being relaxed & refreshed as a norm. When I travel to Europe, I am switching locations a lot - more often than advised on the forum. But, I still bring that feeling of relaxation to my trips when traveling solo. Sitting down to sketch or wandering in the morning in these “lesser towns” are both relaxing. But I am retired, so the number of vacation days & already experiencing the busier “must do’s” work in my favor now.

Back when I was working, I’d say, “I can relax when I’m back on the plane.” We tried to maximize our travel time while we were in Europe because those vacation days were so limited.

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"I live in a beautiful location with lakes & mountains, so I have an environment of being relaxed & refreshed as a norm."

A lot of people draw relaxation from particular environments like that. My goal was to learn to do that in, not any, but most environments. It just gets (a lot) harder when the environment is screaming at you (for example). :)

The other extreme (equally hard) is when nothing is happening for longer than you can stand the boredom. :)

I managed that a while back. It took work. But it comes in handy in odd ways.

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I have taken several long extended trips to Europe. About every 14 days or so I schedule a 2 day period in a place where I catch up on laundry and just mostly rest and relax. Usually a location on a body of water or in a spot in the foothills where its quiet. I find it really makes a difference for the next 14 days or so where the pace is much faster.

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Today is day 44 of our 46 day trip. Ending in Paris we slowed down even further today. We are in an apartment in MontMarte. The 70+ degree weather was perfect for our slowdown day!

Woke up at about 9:00, had coffee, then to the local Boulangerie for croissants at 11. Off on the metro to see Notre Dame, then wandered Le Marais, sat in outdoor cafe for first round of drinks at noon, more wandering before our 2nd round at 2, back to Mont Marte for our next round of drinks at outdoor cafe at 4. Picnic and bottle of wine on the grassy area below the Basilica. Ice cream on way back to apartment. Finished off the bottle of wine with chocolate. Day could not have been better!

And more aimless wandering and people watching tomorrow before flying home Thursday.

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Some years ago I had a very reproducible slowing down moment when crossing the German-Danish border. I lived near German Rendsburg and had stressful weeks. On weekends with sunny weather forecast we sometimes drove up to Danish island Romo to disappear in a hidden dune on the huge beach. Every time we drove German Autobahn A7 (unlimited speed) and entered Denmark the speed limit was a symbolic and real slow down which started always a somehow self-trained / self-conditioned relaxation. Every stress was from one moment to the next in a different and far-away world. Really liked and love to remember it.