The good thing about a thread like this is that it isn't personal to any one person and maybe some new posters will read it and get some ideas. I have both received and given snark on the forum, even though my goal is not to do either : ).
I don't have the knowledge that a lot of the veteran posters have (yet), so it is easier for me to ignore those threads. I think if an OP didn't get any responses maybe they would get better at asking questions?
The hardest questions for me to understand are where should I go and what should I see there. Are these people traveling just because they can and think they should? If James E, or Pam from Idaho, or Chani, or Emma....etc., recommends a site, I am certainly going to take that recommendation seriously, but I am not going to spend thousands of dollars on a trip because a stranger says that it is the best. Although, to a certain extent, I am doing that when I take a Rick Steves tour, but I don't sign up for one unless I have carefully studied the itinerary and it meshes with my wish list.