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Organized active tours for singles.

This question is for the benefit of my very fit and active 68 year old brother. Upon retiring three years ago, his wife announced that she has no interest in traveling, as he had been hoping for 20 years pre-retirement. He is an avid hiker, biker and swimmer and needs some daily physical activity.

He has never been to Europe and, while very interested, he is too intimidated by the details to travel solo despite my assurances that he would be as fine in Rome as he would be in Houston.

I have suggested some of the Rick Steves tours but he justifiably thinks he may be better aligned with some more activity oriented hiking or biking tours. He has actually declined joining my family on a couple of trips as he seems to think he needs more activity than we would be able to provide while touring with 12 & 13 year old girls. Little does he know we actually walk 6-12 miles every day.

Has anyone done such an activity-oriented tour as an older, but active, single person?

Any advice that could help him get comfortable with this idea would be greatly appreciated.

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another Ireland tour that might work--Wolfhound Adventure Tours

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I am thinking that the Rick Steves My Way Alpine Europe would be a good fit for your brother. This type of tour provides lodging, transportation, and a tour manager to advise on daily activities but your time is free to do as you would like. He would have an introduction to travel in Europe and probably find others who are interested in hiking as well.
https://www.ricksteves.com/tours/europe/my-way-alpine

The other idea I have for him is HF Holidays based out the UK. They have walking holidays not only in the UK but throughout Europe. Here is the link for them.
https://www.hfholidays.co.uk/

I think both of these would be a great introduction to European travel for an older, active, single person.

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Try www.exodustravels.com or www.utracks.com or www.gadventures.com or www.macsadventure.com.

I have experience with the first two, in both instances there were mixed ages (30s-70s but skewed towards 50/60s). Great camaraderie and the guides did a great job of managing different abilities without diminishing the enjoyment at either end of the group. I also enjoyed doing a more 'deep dive' into a smaller area rather than skating across a larger area.

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Thanks for the replies everyone.

I had looked at the Macs Adventure tours myself for an upcoming Tour du Mont Blanc.

I was curious as to how the dynamics work for solo travelers when in a large group tour. I have travelled solo a ton but never as part of a larger group tour. Would solo travelers tend to feel like an odd man out or can they expect to be well-incorporated within the group?

The reason I asked this was because a met a gentleman years ago who was a single guy in his mid 40s on a Rick Steves tour stop in Varenna. He was not married and felt out of place being the only single traveler on the tour as the majority of his group split off in groups of couples right away. He definitely felt like a third wheel and was not having too great a time. Not sure if he was the most outgoing person. My brother, on the other hand can be very outgoing, and I would not anticipate a problem with him.

I have known several people that have done the Road Scholars tours but they were already a part of a subgroup as well, so no true solo travellers.

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Jason, I've gone as a solo traveler on a group tour twice (RS tours). I think you met an outlier because I have always felt welcome and enjoyed getting to know both the couples and any other solo travelers on the tour. You do need to be able to speak up and let people know if you are interested in participating in a meal or an activity. If you just sit around waiting for someone to ask, you may just end up sitting around. I do encourage getting the single supplement so you have a room to yourself.

I learned to be confident as a solo traveler because I really didn't have any choice. Your brother may need to get comfortable with eating by himself in a restaurant and other skills such as taking public transport if he has always had someone with him. One challenging spot for me is airport security. It is quite disconcerting to pulled aside for a further search and watch your purse head off down the conveyor with no one else to watch it for you.

I also wanted to mention that RS tours always have some significant free time built into every day. He can choose to be as active as he likes.

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In my experiences, activity based tours won't be 'large' - mine were from memory 18-24ish. And while I guess you can't guarantee the make up of your group, I think a couple that doesn't want to mix with others, would have chosen a self guided holiday option instead of a guided group.

Also, on an activity holiday you're not sitting on a bus in pairs, so being solo doesn't stand out. Couples aren't always matched in their activity abilities either - so may split off to walk/bike/whatever with someone of more similar skill level. Dinners tend to be very casual and group orientated.

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I 100% agree with Carol (NR, lol) about being a solo traveler on a Rick Steves tour. I've done 11 RS tours, 6 as a solo traveler (5 with other family members). I've really never felt out of place or a 5th wheel but then I'm not particularly shy and I pretty much know what I want to do in free time. I agree that I think you met an outlier.

At group meals you are generally all seated together so you just file in next to others. At breakfast everyone eats at different times and I'm always an early one so I can get in and out. I try to make it a point to sit with everyone and will ask to sit with different couples.

The only time I've not felt welcome was when there was a group of 11 people traveling together on a tour and they changed the dynamic of the group. On that tour I was with family but was eating breakfast before everyone else so asked to sit at a long table next to some of the group. There was a definite hesitation before someone said yes so I sat down. I felt they needed to understand they were on a "group" tour, not a "private" tour and perhaps could widen their circle.

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I have been on 6 Rick Steves tours as a single and have always felt welcome. I'm an introvert, and I have to make some effort at the beginning, but it has always worked out and I have enjoyed the group.

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299 posts

Awesome help folks!!!

I will show him thread this weekend. Hopefully, it will give him peace of mind that all will be okay.

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Check backroads tours. I haven’t personally done them but a friend has. They have lots of active choices and look like a good company.

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How much of a biker? Bike trails in the park, or roadie MAMIL (Middle-Aged Man In Lycra)? There are all sorts of European bike tour outfits at various price points, from self-guided to guided luxury tours with support vans and four-star accomodations, and from gentle mostly flat routes to "10 days in the Alps."

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Thanks AlanJ.

He is a former marathoner and triathlete. Rides only in Houston now so Backroads may be a little much at least in the hilly areas he is interested in. I think he would love a Dolomites or Swiss Alps hiking tour, but needs a gentle introduction into European traveling to get over his hesitation. Yet he has no problem sailing a boat from Maine to Honduras. Sure is funny what scares each of us.

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My husband and I ( now in our 70’s) have done done active, hiking-focused tours in small groups to Patagonia, the Alps (Tour du Mont Blanc), the Spanish Pyrenees, Slovenia, and Japan with REI Adventures or MT Sobek ( a Berkeley-based company). The group size has ranged from 7 to 10 people, mostly in their late 50’s or 60’s, of which at least 3 on every trip have been solo travelers. Often the solo person is married, but their spouse could not, or would not for some reason, join such an active trip. On the Japan trip, which was 7 people plus our guide,, we were the only couple. The other 5 were two men whose wives did not want to come along, a woman whose partner had already done the trip and could not get time off work, and two widows traveling solo for the first time. Each had something positive to offer the group and we all enjoyed each others’ company.

One of the highlights of almost every trip has been when we reach an alpine lake on a day’s hike, and my husband strips down to his swim shorts and dives in for a swim. The guides are amused, but in most cases other men, and sometimes a woman or two will join him ( not me—-I don’t like such cold water!

REI no longer does foreign trips, but I would encourage your brother to look into the Dolomites or other trips offered by MT Sobek. They make it easy—- the meeting place is usually a major airport or a hotel in an easy-to-reach city. All one has to do is show up with the right gear, a good level of fitness, and the readiness to have a great time. Cultural exploration as well as good food and drink are part of the whole experience.

HF Holidays, mentioned above, would be another great option. They offer hiking-focused holidays from their own country houses scattered across the UK, as well as week-long holidays in good locations around Europe (Austrian Alps; Tour du Mont Blanc; Dolomites, Puglia and other locales in Italy; Costa Brava in Spain, and much more). All generally offer daily guided walking on 3 levels. (easy, moderate, and strenuous) and lots of resources for further exploration on one’s own. We have enjoyed walking holidays with them in the Lake District and Jurassic Coast of England. He might like to consider their Scotland base in the Highlands, which includes an ascent of Ben Nevis for those who are interested.