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What is it you would like to do relative to what you, pragmatically, can do? Financially, personally, or otherwise.

I would like to rent an apartment somewhere in Europe for a month or so, but my wife is more of a homebody and after 7-10 days is ready to go home. Thus, we compromise and our trips are 7-10 days :-)

Part of me would like to travel to Russia and Australia, but the length of the flights is a deterrent. 8 hours, give or take, is about my limit. Maybe I'd be willing to consider it if I could afford first or business class.

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I would travel 50% of the time, but hubby is the homebody. I do get him out for one long trip each year of late, up to 8 weeks in Europe.

Many places can only be seen efficiently with a car but we eschew driving so we miss some of those places.

We have taken to business class. It is a splurge but it means we arrive less fatigued and it is worth every dime. OTOH, since we stay a week or longer in most places we tend to rent reasonably priced apartments and do some cooking as a practical approach and that saves money and cuts calories.

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720 posts

We have the ability to work in several foreign countries, but our kids are very content and connected to their lives here. In lieu of that, Id like to live abroad every summer

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3657 posts

I would like to travel more spontaneously, even for short trips. When those short notice airfare sales pop up, it would be great to be able to drop everything and go and spend 5 days in Paris, or the UK, etc. Family gets in the way, and the long flights with connections from the middle of the country are definitely a deterrent.

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1455 posts

My compromise also relates to Business Class. We could take more trips to Europe by flying in Economy, but we have learned by hard experience that we are infinitely more comfortable flying in Business. The trade-off of fewer, but more comfortable trips is worth it to us.

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530 posts

We've reached the age where we spring for premium economy. It's worth it. When we were younger basic economy was fine. This is flying Virgin.

When we had kids at home flying anything but basic was expensive.

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328 posts

Work really gets in the way of my traveling. :). That, and the kids’ school schedules!

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860 posts

We have a 1 year old, now the compromise is that we just dont go anywhere.

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10831 posts

There are times when we as a couple have to resort to compromising. Between the me and the Mrs, if she wanted only to stay 7-10 days, regardless of reason or if I had to do that, ie 7-10 days, for some compelling reason we separate, ie, one of us flies home solo, whereas the other stays for the month. Basically, we go over together, and we separate with one returning earlier.

Flying from Calif we are used to taking a flight in Basic Economy of 10-11 hrs non-stop, much preferable that it be non-stop unless the transfer/layover airport, the flight price, etc, make it so attractive instead of doing the non-stop 11 hrs to Paris or Frankfurt.

On the apt for a month...never tried that option as yet. If the Mrs wanted to do just that in France, Poland, maybe Italy, I would leave it up to her to do all the arrangements.

The longest I've stayed in one place was in Berlin, solo, a couple of years ago, 14 consecutive nights in a Pension.

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530 posts

Fred, now that you mention it maybe 2 weeks split between two destinations, or 10 days between 3. Now you've got me thinking. Look out, world.

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2279 posts

You can get to Australia with a stop in Hawaii. Hawaiian Airlines does an OK job of getting you there and the prices are considerably lower for their business class than Qantus direct from LAX for example. The hop from Honolulu to Sydney is 10 hours, which might be over your comfort time frame. I used them when I went to New Zealand (stopped in Honolulu for 3 days to stretch my legs a bit, then on to Sydney, then flew to New Zealand). No complaints.

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@ BigMike....In 2014 due to pressing family considerations, I could only go 15 days max (incl landing day) once I landed in Frankfurt from SFO. Apart from staying the first 2 nights in Frankfurt, the rest of the trip was divided between staying in Berlin and Vienna, then finally backtracking to Frankfurt by the early evening on the last full day for the non-stop flight FRA to SFO the next day.

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I'd like to sell our house (love the place, hate the responsibility), rent a small apartment and be one of those people who are trying to balance the time in and out of Schengen for the 6 months each year that my husband is racing.

The main thing that keeps me from doing that or being gone more than 4-6 weeks at a time is leaving our now older dog behind. He has a great time at Camp Bow Wow and I can see him online, but I do miss him terribly. We haven't been successful in teaching him how to text us yet.

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7-10 days, we are just getting started.
My personal opinion is that we never take an overseas trip that is less than about 2 1/2 weeks. Our longest trip so far has been to Australia, New Zealand and a TransPacific cruise back to Seattle for 7 weeks. It was wonderful.

If you go places like Russia, China, Japan, Australia, South America, Africa, then you must spend more time. Even a European trip for 7-10 days can be limiting.

We never take Business Class, since the cost of the fare is usually about 4 or 5 times that of coach. One idea is to break up your trip. When we flew from Jacksonville, Fla to Singapore, we broke it up with an extra night in Paris between 8 hour flights.

Also, consider Premium Economy which gives you a little extra leg room.

Here are some of our trip reports to places a considerable distance away like Russia:

Russia, Kiev and Baltics


North Sea/Atl and Transatlantic
 Portugal, the Douro River and a bit of Spain

28 days in Britain and Celebrity Eclipse home

Melbourne, New Zealand and Explorer of the Seas TransPacific cruise
Alaska, Vancouver and the Canadian Rockies
Japan and a little bit of China

Singapore to Dubai
South America
Black Sea and E. Med

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I am very very prone to seasickness and meds don’t help me, so anything involving long times on boats is a no go. No Antarctic cruise for me.

My husband and I are in our 30s-40s and are not independently wealthy. So we have to work, meaning long trips are out of the question. 2-3 weeks is about all we can manage at a time. Which is fine - and we will take one 2-3 week trip a year and several long weekends to 4-6 night trips. Usually the short trips are within a 5 hour flight from eastern US (California, Iceland, Mexico, Puerto Rico...) but not always. If we can get a good rate or use miles I think nothing of going to Europe for a short trip. That’s a compromise due to not being retired or otherwise able to travel long term.

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928 posts

Budget. Budget budget budget. Both DH would be happy to have more frequent and longer trips but can't do it on our income. To be fair, we probably are spending more on travel than is wise at our income level, but can't help ourselves.

Time off amount is acceptable (but never enough), though I look forward to moving up to six weeks (30 days) in 2023.

We also are hindered by cat care as our boy is diabetic. Ironically we have an easier time arranging a few weeks away than a weekend. Right now a young woman at my work moves in for the long trips, but it's hard to get someone to pop in twice a day just for a weekend. Even going to my sister's later today for the Superbowl is a problem. Good thing he's so adorable!

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328 posts

“To be fair, we probably are spending more on travel than is wise at our income level, but can't help ourselves.”

@Andrea, are we separated at birth!?

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1445 posts

All my travel is about compromise.
I get 6 weeks' vacation now but am trying to embrace staycations and simpler planning as i have reached a point where solo travel and all the planning, logistics, cooking on the road does not compute well with house responsibilities and being a competent employee upon arrival home. So, I find cruises have become an easier time away, but just as challenging when I get home. Will flights and airports ever get easier? I rarely jave the option of direct flights, and even then there are often delays and hassles....and jet lag.
Like a number here, budget matters. I am now on a beach week, but when walking past those flat beds in the front of the plane, I was green with envy. But I still go economy long haul, as price equates to a week in the sun to escape Canadian winters. I won't give those up for 8 hours of comfort.
I also have to consider how far less my Cdn$. For the rare time it is as strong as the US$, I then book the travel and places I can't afford when it is $.27 less.
But if I could have anything, I would do much the same, except I would upgrade to first class air, and occasionally splurge for some out of the way beach island with AI room service tailored to my food needs and guaranteed quiet/solitude.

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108 posts

Compromises about traveling? Hahahahaha.... As if...

There is nothing more important to me than traveling except for my family. I recently reconfigured my job so I can travel longer. This summer I am gone 6 weeks in Europe with my children (3 and 6). My husband will be there 3 of the 6 weeks. And I have close friends also visiting during that time, but 2 of the 6 weeks, I am solo with the children in Europe.
We are also going to Cambodia, Laos and Thailand this March for 3 weeks.

Compromises? ok, now that I think about it, I make the choice to live way way below my means so that we can travel. But I see it more like a choice, not a compromise. I chose not to have a nice big house or drive an expensive car so that we can travel longer.

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2229 posts

I love that the previous poster used the word "choices". People will say to me, "I wish we could afford the travel". I certainly understand that there are people that do struggle in their day to day existence. But, in many aspects of life, it is about choices. One friend told me she would never shop at Aldi, she always goes to the "fancy" grocery store in town. Thing is I don't think she's ever been to the new Aldi in town. She is one that remarks that she wishes they could afford the luxury of travel. I have also noticed that on the few trips they have made, they make pretty expensive food and lodging choices. That's fine, but again its a choice. We drive our cars until they die. We've done a lot of travel in the U.S. mostly tent camping. In Europe, we really research our hotels and stay at 2 and 3 star local places. Yes, they must be clean and have a comfortable bed large enough to accommodate myself and my tall husband and be very near or in city center, but we deal with any "quirks" in fact they are often part of the charm and make good memories.

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1445 posts

I think there are choices and compromises and sometimes both. If I choose to travel a certain month for prime bird migtration (geeky birdwatcher here) which puts travel into high season, then I compromise to stay on budget. We can get into a symantics debate, I guess; or embrace the tenor of the question.

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2167 posts

I would like to rent an apartment somewhere in Europe for a month or
so, but my wife is more of a homebody and after 7-10 days is ready to
go home. Thus, we compromise and our trips are 7-10 days :-)

It sounds like for you, compromise = capitulate. ;-)

If you want to travel for a month, why don't you? First travel together for the length of time your wife wants to be away and then continue your trip. My parents typically did that. My father maybe had a week of travel time but my mother typically wanted to stay in Europe longer so she did and flew home 2 weeks later. For us, this is normal as my husband and I do the same thing. There are times I need to return home and he stays on the trip longer. Vice Versa too.

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1997 posts

I'm a teacher and I dream of being able to travel during the "shoulder seasons"! I hope to retire in a few years. I'm not sure exactly what I will doing after that, except that I know I am going to have a really great trip planned for September!!!

One interesting bit that I learned on a trip to Africa a few years ago is that the airfare from Seattle to Rwanda wasn't any more expensive than the airfare Seattle to Amsterdam on KLM. I broke up my flights with a one night stay in Amsterdam on the way there and spent several days in Amsterdam on the way home. It made me start thinking about what other destinations there are that could be explored for really no additional airfare cost over going to Europe and with Europe as a stop-over.

What if you went with your wife on your typical European vacation, she went home, and you went exploring to one of these places?
Only problem, she would be pretty jealous when she saw your pictures......

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I was hoping for a working stint in Europe, at least two or three years in a central location. I could explore new places each weekend. I would have probably accepted a modest pay cut to do it. Unfortunately I never received any offers.

I'd love to fly first class but can't justify spending such a large percentage of my travel budget for a relatively short part of the trip.

I'd also love to have a full wardrobe to choose from each day, but I don't want to carry it around.

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I would like to buy an apartment in Budapest, and once I retire be able to spend a significant amount of time there. Could be a possibility, right now just a happy thought.

Last year was extra special because I got to make 2 trips--Hungary & Germany, and then a 5 day return to London--I'd like to do that every year if time and money present themselves fortuitously.

I want to go on a road trip through various countries--England, France, Germany, Hungary, Poland all come immediately to mind--but as a solo traveler I am hesitant to rent a car and would prefer to do it with a travel partner.

I almost chose Russia for this year's vacation, but get a little apprehensive about things like needing a visa, our political climate, and dealing with the Cyrillic alphabet. Considering going through a tour company solo but with a personal guide.

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Our compromise was between travel more often but cheaper - flights & lodging OR less travel spending more on flights like at least premium economy on flights. So we travel less but upgrade on flights and lodging.

My husband (who is retired) could be gone for a month - me (not retired but very flexible schedule) I'm good with about 15 nights boots on the ground (He "compromises" on that). Our longest trip was to NZ and we were gone almost 25 days - way too long for me. I'm no homebody but I begin to miss my dogs :).