The last time I went to Europe, I took an Osprey Luna 60 extra small backpack for women. An example of it is here: http://tinyurl.com/2cd6s2 . It is a very nice backpack and has a lot of good accessories, like outer and inner compression straps, waist belt, sternum strap, etc.
I took too much with me at the time, and that backpack was big and HEAVY. I am a diminutive 26 year old woman (I weigh 85 pounds), and my friends (and other people) would laugh at me when I would first put on the backpack. The pack weighs about 6 pounds when it is empty. I would make sure to pack less next time I travel, especially after reading all the tips at this website and forum.
My question is this: should I sacrifice the niceness of that pack for lighter packs for future trips? I read somewhere that a pack should not weigh more than 10 to 15% of your weight. Or should I just make sure to pack appropriately in the first place? And would it ever be possible to carry on a backpack like that on an airplane? (They wouldn't let me when I traveled with it, though it is under 45".)