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Adapting?

It's funny how timing works. I spent some time writing out this post at lunch, and thinking about a shift in my travel plans as I'm nearing 90 days out. After I finished pinning down my thoughts, a new thread popped up called "Lessons learned when things go wrong" - https://community.ricksteves.com/travel-forum/general-europe/lessons-learned-when-things-go-wrong - The similarity in what we are wrestling with is striking. While that discussion centers on reacting to sudden, live travel chaos, I'd been thinking about how we proactively adapt months in advance when the stable, everyday routines we've relied on are altered.

I'm predictable. For years I've had a predictable, machine-like routine for beginning my travels. I lived near the local train station, so my routine has been elegant and rote; so rote that I've usually scheduled flights on Wednesdays. I would walk the block to the station, catch a Wednesday 6am Amtrak, arrive at DC Union Station around 10am, kill a little time, take the DC Metro to Dulles, and board a 5-6pm flight. It was cheap, low-effort, and required zero overthinking.

External forces altered my comfortable travelscape. Back in January, I scored a great price for airfare for a 10pm departure this October from Dulles. I would just catch my usual 6am morning train to Union Station and have just a little more time to burn. However, when I went to purchase my Amtrak ticket, I fully realized how much the Long Bridge rail infrastructure construction project had warped the schedule. To get to DC on a travel day, the morning train now departs at 4:24am. I wasn't feeling that length of day for a Wednesday travel day. My solution was to book a night at a hotel in Foggy Bottom, so, go to DC on Tuesday morning and fly out on Wednesday, keeping things relaxed.

Then in March I moved, now two miles away from the train station. At the time I purchased the airfare, I had no idea I would be moving. Normally, I am a go with the flow, suck it up kind of traveler. But, walking two miles at 2:30am with luggage and cane didn't excite me, and I have zero trust in the reliability of a 3am taxi or rideshare roll of the dice.

Instead of a late-night check-in or a clunky early morning transit slog, I chose another adaptation. On Monday, I could stay at a local boutique hotel, just blocks from the train station, making a 2 mile gap into a local staycation. And who really gets to stay at their own local hotels? This hotel I've been curious about since it’s tucked right into the edge of the historic area and on the floor above several shops including my regular café.

On Monday during normal daylight hours, go downtown and check-in. On Tuesday, take the early train to DC, check into that hotel, and enjoy a relaxed day in the city. Then on Wednesday, I would head to Dulles, enjoy the lounge and then board my flight.

On paper, this plan seems convoluted. I change environments two days in a row just to solve a 2 mile commute and a schedule shift. There is an evening Amtrak train. I did look at that middle of the road option of leaving Williamsburg on the Tuesday evening train, getting into DC at 8pm, and rolling into my hotel around 9pm. But is that actually enjoyable? Checking into a DC hotel late just to wind down and immediately go to sleep feels like an administrative chore, not a vacation.

I’m looking forward to a pre-vacation vacation. I am not looking for fixes or alternative advice. Mainly, I am just not in a hurry, I am on vacation, and especially since my accident, I don't want to rush from one thing to the next. Instead, I am fascinated by how or why we each make choices as travelers. What is your philosophy on adaptation? How do you tend to deal with changes to keep your timeline? Do you structurally redesign? How do you balance the line between smart risk management and over-engineering?

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My husband and I have also recently adapted our traveling style as we've gotten older. And we are lucky enough to be able to afford our change in style.

For driving, we used to drive straight-through for 14 to 16 hours to visit relatives. Now, if we drive long distances, we break the trip into 2 days and stay at a hotel halfway.

We live in the Pacific Time Zone, so flying to the East Coast or to countries in Europe makes for long days. We used to get up at 3am to take an early flight out of our non-major airport to a larger airport, and then have to take 2 other flights, just to get to our East Coast or Southeast US destination (usually arriving in the late afternoon or evening).

Our first trip overseas we did the above, landing at an East Coast airport around 5pm, and then immediately took an evening flight to Rome that landed around 12:30pm the next day, and then we took a 3:30pm connecting flight to Palermo. What were we thinking!?! We were exhausted before we even arrived there, and our legs, back and glutes were not happy at all.

We now break up our trips overseas into multiple days. We may fly to a hub on the West Coast, stay at a nearby hotel and do a little sightseeing, and the next late afternoon or evening take a direct flight overseas (or as direct as possible, trying to limit how much time we spend on the plane). Or we fly to an East Coast hub, stay the night and do a little sightseeing, and the next day fly overseas. Like you said, we get a mini-vacation before we continue on to our big vacation.

Yes, this takes more time to get to where we want to go, and it certainly costs more (hotel, transportation, food). We are very fortunate. We are retired so we have the time, and we carefully examine our budget and make sure we can afford it. Money may not buy happiness, but it sure can buy some comfort! This style of travelling lets us start a vacation in a better state of mind and body!

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We fly from Sacramento which means we always have at least one connection in the U.S. before arriving in Europe. We could fly from San Francisco, but that means having to get there after a 2 hour drive. I would rather spend 20 minutes getting to our local airport. In October we are flying into Rome via SFO and we arrive at 1:40 p.m. We are starting our trip in Salerno, so we would have to get through passport control and EES before getting to Termini to take a 2 hour train to Salerno. The more I thought about it I decided we would spend our first night in Rome and take the train the following morning. I was stressing myself out just thinking about the logistics.

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Andrea. I did similar in February 2022 when there were no direct flights from Dulles to Edinburgh. I flew into Heathrow, stayed a night in London, and took LNER up to Edinburgh the next day making the journey in the four hours between checkout and check-in . I took the train back down to London for another week before flying home. Last October I flew from Richmond to Newark to Berlin. I didn't want a connecting flight from Berlin to Prague so I landed in Berlin and took a train to Prague. Later on that trip, I took the train from Prague to London with a night in Brussels.

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Hi VAP: Regarding your question: What is your philosophy on adaptation? How do you tend to deal with changes to keep your timeline? Do you structurally redesign? How do you balance the line between smart risk management and over-engineering?

Mary and I are 65 and in good shape, but it's still much different that 35, 45, or even 55 if we're being honest about it. We have a limited travel budget so we still "get after it" when travelling, but the evenings are relaxed with walking and a drink or two, so that's our daily recovery. I mean, from 1800-2200 we slow down after being busy during the day.

I enjoy over-engineering to uncover all of the pitfalls and work-arounds as necessary, and if something happens like Mary having GI issues in London when we were supposed to travel to Oxford, we just don't go. No big deal.

Yes, for an early morning flight out of Dulles, etc., we get a local hotel. Premium econonmy is more restful than steerage although at times we can find relatively comfortable seats back there with the commoners, if available.

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BigMike, you've hit on what I’ve been weighing. There is a difference between how we handle things at 25 versus how we want to handle it now. Ever since my accident, my tolerance for rushing has dropped to near zero. Now, adaptation means taking control of the environment so I don't have to hurry from one thing to the next. I can relate to your love of over-engineering to map out pitfalls. This post was born from testing myself and if my choices made sense. I suppose this is my version of setting things up before I even cross the ocean.

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"Adapting" is an important skill as we navigate life. From the time our children were small (2 and 4 years old) we had a various sized travel trailers and travelled extensively in the US and we were accustomed to being together in a small space with limited "stuff."

In 2022 our family (66, 54, 22 and 20 at the time of travel) went on our first European vacation to celebrate our daughter's college graduation. It was one of our last family trips; a little over 3 weeks long and we successfully traveled via carry-on only and we used public transportation a LOT.

Husband and I have taken a few trips to Europe since 2022 and each trip, we learn a little more and adapt. Here are some of our adaptations as husband and I are now 70 and 58, in pretty good shape, but most travel is just the two of us now.

1 - We loved the freedom of carry-on only, but it became too much for us. By that I mean wrangling everything through security lanes - both foreign and domestic and then finding space in overhead bins and under seats. Husband had knee replacement in 2024, which may mean a different scanner for him or a pat down. Husband has a cpap (in a medical tagged bag), and each of us had a carry-on and personal item. This became more than I wanted to deal with at the conveyor belt on the other side of the scanner, especially if he is getting separately scanned. Moreover, if a bag was pulled to the side for extra screening - it was just too many things to keep an eye on.

Our adaption is we now check our bags. We each have a small, 2-wheeled under-seater providing wheels in the airport and a change of clothes with us. The under seaters are lightweight so I am not dealing with a heavy bag at security. They have a trolley strap so when we get our checked bags from the luggage carousel, the under seater sits on top of the checked bag, and we are walking with one large bag set.

2-Arrival transportation. On our second trip, we decided that travelling to and from the airport we will take a cab or hired car. After a long haul flight, dealing with jet lag and luggage (and possibly stairs with luggage), this is simply a price we are willing to pay. Depending on the distance, we will also hire a cab to travel to and from train stations when the travel includes luggage; otherwise, we are happy with most public transportation.

3-Getting over jet lag. So far, I can power through arrival day, go to sleep after dinner and the next day, I am "reset." This is not the case for my husband; when we arrive in our room, he is going to sleep for several hours because he probably has not slept at all for 24 hours +/-. He will typically power through the next day, our first full day in Europe and the following day (second full day in Europe) he is typically reset. Long story short - our adaptation is that we do not really schedule anything until late in the 2nd day or the 3rd full day.

I am sure we will have more adaptations as we age, but the important thing is to make the adaptations you need to make, to allow you to comfortably do the things you want to do. If that means a staycation for a night in your home town and then another day in DC before your European flight, you are doing what is best for you - and your vacation starts at home. We are doing something similar, ie two days to adapt, we are just doing it in Europe.

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We have certainly adapted our travel style as we have aged. While we still try to travel carry-on only those days may be numbered. One thing we have started to purchase in addition to our Economy flights is early boarding, which gives us more time to settle and a possible guarantee of room for our bags.

I have always done a great deal of research before any travel and doing it is even more important now. It's much easier to adapt in preparation for travel than it is to have to adapt "on the fly." Changes are a lot easier to manage when they are made by choice.

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salbeachbum, I'm reminded that we're all different, and what works for one person may backfire for another. Jet lag comes to mind. Some people are just fine powering through arrival day, others do better with a nap under an hour, and some may need more sleep than that. That's why it's nearly impossible to suggest exactly what someone else "should" do under various circumstances. As Aristotle said, "know yourself."