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4 Months and 9 Countries-It’s the People that made it great

You hear it all the time...”It’s the People that make your trip”. Yes it’s a cliche but it is true. At least for me.

So as my 4 months in Europe winds down and after 9 Countries, 10 AirBnb’s, at least 13 Hotels, 5 Rental Cars, 7 Train Trips, 2 Ferries, 1 Bus and one flight Athen to Paris (not counting our inbound/outbound flight here) all with a dog in tow we are looking back on some of the people that “made” our trip.

There was the 18 year old Milosc in Visegrad (Bosnia) who tried to sell us a boat ride on the Drina. He caught my attention with his note perfect, unaccented American English, He had charm in spades, highly intelligent, entrepreneurial and a great salesman. We talked for a long time and met him again. I told him he should sign up with AirBnb to lead walking tours of Visegrad and explain the history of the place and the war there. (He didnt know you could do this) Visegrad has several AirBnbs and most visitors not from the Balkan’s would be taking a tour in English anyway. He still emails us. And he bought a new laptop from his commissions on the boat ticket sales.

The Waiter in Belgrade. He was tall rugged looking with that actors 3 day beard, blue eyes and a huge smile. He was a great waiter working at a very cool restaurant called Rob Roy 1884 connected to the Main train station, which bills itself as the First “Jack Daniels Bar” in Serbia. We talked to him about the fact his government was tearing down the wonderful main train station for an office complex funded by the Saudis and Chinese. He was furious at this of course and went on a long discourse about how the corrupt government had sold out everything to Saudi and China and were even going to privatize the Bus system (another Saudi project). He had worked abroad and you could tell by his service style, He cared about his country and that beautiful old building the train station and despaired that Serbia would ever get it’s act together. Never the less he was upbeat about Belgrade and his life in general and planned to work abroad again. He was fun, intelligent and outspoken.

There was Dennis from Nigeria who we met in Lecce Italy. An immigrant of ten years residency, tall, big booming voice with a ready smile and ready to talk to almost anyone. We met as we were dodging a wedding procession through the old town. We stood and talked for about 20 minutes. He had a remarkable grasp of American politics and our political structure. America is a Great! Country he said more than once (we were talking politics) but our present situation was just too disturbing, he said. He had been to America and loved it. We laughed a lot with him and he gave us hope.

In Bar Montenegro we stayed at a small family run place called the Pharos Hotel and went to sit in the beautiful garden restaurant/bar in the afternoon one day. A young woman came out to wait on us and we ordered some beers. As it turned out Eva was the niece of the hotel owner and only 14 though she looked at least 17 or 18. This is another case of someone speaking great English learned on You Tube and the web. When we asked her if she had any peanuts or something to snack on with the beer she ran to the back and came back to us and said “Sorry no but we can go buy some” We said “Oh gosh don’t do that”. No no that’s ok she said they went to the store already I will just call them and tell them to buy peanuts. A little while later the peanuts arrived. We talked to her a lot during our several hours of drinking and dinner. I asked her what subjects she took in school and after she told me the incredible list I said “Well you must be very smart to do all of that” She replied...”Oh yes I am smart but I am lazy, I spend too much time watching videos of music”

When it came time to order dinner we asked her for a menu, she got a panicked look on her face and ran to the back...she did a lot of running to the back of the place, and when she returned she said “Well what do you want to eat?”

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Cont. We looked at each other and laughed and said...”well can you give us an idea of what you can fix”? She ran back inside...”anything you want” she said....but we have soup and pork and chicken. We said ok make us something out of that....and what resulted was one of the best meals of the entire trip. And getting to meet Eva.

Lastly there was the anonymous man in the line or more accurately the Scrum at the Bari Ferry Terminal waiting to board the Bari to Bar Montenegro Ferry. it was stifling hot. Hundreds of people standing pushing jostling for a better position. My friend Mary and I were somewhere in the center of all of this. I was sure as I looked around me that the ship would surely sink from the amount of luggage being brought on board.

We were talking and this man turned to us and said “ You can go to that line” pointing out the EU Passport holder line. I showed him my US Passport and he was even more adamant...Go that line! I told my freind Mary that I didnt feel comfortable just going to the EU line....The man seeing my hesitation interrupted me and said “Leave your Woman here and go ask... it is ok” Well I told him that Mary wasn’t “My Woman” and he said “OK your lover” “Go Check! It will be much faster for you” Well this had us both laughing as Mary and I are just friends and only friends....but I went and sure enough the customs guy said yes you are in this line. We got through in minutes and were comfortably aboard and in our cabin long before he ever cleared customs I am sure and all due to his generosity of spirit and his limited but wonderful English.

There are many many more of course but it would take the whole site to describe them all...It remains tru today as it did when I first went overseas on my own in the early 70’s...it is The People that make your trip truly special and memorable.

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Its a shame there wasn't a TV crew filming your travels; sounds like it would be a fascinating watch

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Bah humbug! I don’t go to Europe to be social. I can be social anywhere!
I go for the history, art, food and culture
and the general feasting of the eyes.
Not to have trivial interactions with people I most likely will never see again.
But, different strokes for different folks.

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We go mainly for the history, art and culture, but getting to know the locals a bit is fun. Our 4 week drive tour of Wales and England, we go to know a lot of people, just dining in pubs.
Some countries are more amenable to just striking up conversations. Americans tend to like to do this, but British, Aussies, Canadians are similar. The Japanese people are very friendly and helpful as well.

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"...... getting to know the locals ..." Well, of course, you do not get to KNOW the local residents anywhere by having a nice little chat in a shop or cafe. You need to spend time with them over weeks or months and all the better if you speak or at least understand a bit of their language. Otherwise, I would term it "meeting the locals" and they are assessing you just as you assess them.

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I so agree with you that it is about the people. Yes, the culture and sites are awesome but the people is what makes it for me too. I was just in Dublin with my 10 year son and o the DART back to our hotel we met this nice lady who told us where and when to go swimming in the ocean and about how she and her friends ( in their 80s) go swimming in the sea once a day year round! These are the things that make me smile

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Hi aarthurperry,

It's always very nice to read your descriptive experiences. You bring these people "to life" for us. I can picture Jake wagging his tail at all the pleasantries encountered.

I totally agree with you about the "people we meet along the way." I've had many, many memorable experiences myself that still ring crystal clear - not just with International travel but trips to other States. In my travels, I've exchanged contact information with a few.

Planning and sightseeing is great of course, but those happenstance friendships and experiences or a "stranger's" gracious kindness really enhance our travels.

Glad you had a great, very memorable 4 months. Hostess Eva is tops! lol.

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Thanks for the report. It is all about the people you meet. 48 years after my first trip to Europe I don’t remember many of the museums.
But I remember the kind old man in Helsinki who helped 4 US teenagers buy a loaf on bread at the bakery. “I speak English” but I swear that was the only English he spoke.
I remember the nice older museum curator in Moscow coming down to our bus to congratulate us for landing on the moon (we watched Neil Armstrong’s moon walk the next day in our West Berlin hotel lobby.)

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aarthurperry, for me, too, it's the people who make my travel experiences so wonderful. Thank you for posting this heartfelt and heartwarming trip summary. I have enjoyed every minute of your travels.

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Thanks for taking time to elaborate on what makes a trip to really memorable. While I agree with others that my primary goal and visiting Europe may be to see the scenery and the sites and experience a different way of living, it is the people that I meet along the way who are most memorable. My husband and I got lost on Burano a few years ago, looking for the ferry. I asked a group of older ladies for directions in Italian, received them, and promptly took off in the wrong direction. We were stopped by a woman easily in her 90s, who decided she would walk us to the ferry. Along the way, she stopped Because she could not see my husband, who was actually right next to her out of her view. She then asked me in all seriousness, “ am I walking too fast for you?” We both cracked up, as she was walking with s cane and easily 30 years older than us. Walked us all the way to the ferry, chatting about her life time spent living on the island. It was one of the nicest memories of our day.

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It’s the People that made it great

Sorry, i didn't read beyond the title. The rest is irrelevant. You are so incredibly correct (unless you are visiting Eagle River, AK)

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James, just so you know...not all of us Northerners are so humbug-ish.

You're welcome in Fort Nelson any time. After all, your people built the damn Alaska Highway.

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Peter, I've only been to Canada twice. Loved both trip. Oddly enough i still correspond with "one of your people" that i met when i was fishing outside of Whistler about 6 years ago. I'll be back for the fish.... and the people.....

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OH, and since I have now read most of the post. I've made two trips to Montenegro and, again, the folks were wonderful. What does it matter? Well, when i heard on the news that the people in Montenegro were "aggressive" i had a personal experience to weigh it against. Again, I still correspond with someone i met while fishing in the mountains in Montenegro and with the tour guide i hired. Another place i will return to for fish and people....

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AND, since i am on a roll. Since I do a lot of travel to Budapest, i have a lot of friends there. I would never have met them if I hadn't opened my mouth and shared a few glasses of wine. Now my dentist and cardiologist are in Budapest and i have dinner with both when in town. In the Ukraine, talking and asking questions provided a great lesson the Ukrainian attitude towards the future of the country. One nationalistic in a positive sense, the other nationalistic in nothing short of a frightening sense. When i hear the news about Ukraine and our government's relations, and the news on the war and Putin's propaganda i can at least sort out a little of the truth. I also correspond from time to time with one of the two.

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Thanks to all of you who read (and didnt read) such a long post and thanks for all of your very kind comments.

I think it’s natural for people to go to a place for the Art, History, Architecture, Food and Culture. Personally I do not see how you separate out the People from the Cuture. But as almost everyone agrees; it is the people you meet that make it memorable. But there are plenty of places in the world you do not visit for those reasons....Like Alaska. Most go there for the Scenery and Animals. (Although there is plenty of culture there and one of the best Museums in the country resides in Fairbanks...The Museum of The North at the University of Alaska, Fairbanks) Now I spent a whole summer in Alaska last year and met many people there that stay in my memory...Many of them Bulgarians.

And people go to Tanzania and Kenya most often for the Animals... Of course there is fascinating Art, Culture and history almost anywhere you go.

I am still in Greece on the tiny Island of Alonissos as I write this and have a few more days here and some in Athens before I return to Paris to catch my flight home. I will be posting some more reflections of my trip before I leave here as the memories are fresh and they are tumbling in on me all the time now.

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Arthur, may I ask... If you are American and stayed in Europe for 4 months, I was under the impression that you could stay in the EU only 90 days without a special visa. If that is correct, how did you get around that?

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Great posts, aarthur. It is the people you meet that make travel worthwhile. No doubt. If you get the opportunity to live overseas, what a gift that is.

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aarthur, I appreciated your post. Of course we go to Europe for the culture, art, history, architecture, food... But when I look back at our trip to Siena last year, the memory that pops into my head is a chat with a woman working at the bar where we had lunch. She couldn't figure out how to ring up our order and had to call for help. As we chatted, it turns out it was her first day on the job, and the bar was mobbed with tourists. We laughed about new jobs, bosses, etc. When we left, my DH, who had followed a bit of the (Italian) conversation, asked what we had been talking about. "Wow" he said; "you just had a back door moment!"

Many (many!) years ago, as an undergraduate, I was part of a study tour to the then Soviet Union. We were based in Leningrad. Amazing art and architecture. What do I remember most?

I was out walking one day, enjoying the weather and the scenery. I had on a dress my mother, an accomplished seamstress, had made for me. It had a high neck, long sleeves, but a rather short (above the knees) but full skirt. As I walked along the Neva, a local babushka - elderly woman and guardian of public morals - called out to me: "You, girl! Aren't you ashamed?" "Ashamed?" I asked, genuinely confused. "You appear in public in a dress like that! Shame!" I explained to her that my mother had made the dress, and she was appalled. I'm sure she went home and told her family about the immoral American girl she had met.

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Nice stories, Arthur, and indicative of the joy with which you approach travel. With an open mind and heart, experience become more personal and memorable.

Jane, your story from Russia is precious! And isn't the ability to chat with someone in their language worth all the grief of learning it? Brava!

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Laurel, yes, I agree with you about languages. I love learning, and even knowing a bit of a language makes the visit more fun. We always make it a point to learn some of the language of any country we're going to be visiting. Our level of facility varies wildly, of course, but even just knowing the courtesy words - and how to use them appropriately - is worthwhile.

And I know some people are lost in a foreign language; my sister is incredibly smart, but just can't get her brain around another language. So I'm not putting down folks who don't learn the language of the country they're visiting, just acknowledging how rewarding it is to be able to.

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Part of knowing the locals is knowing their history and culture. It's a large part of what makes a person who they are.

When I was in high school. I was a big fan of science fiction books. I liked that a human was human no matter what environment you put them in. I enjoyed how the stories unfolded and they had to react to their environment, sometimes heroically, other times less so.

Now, meeting locals is the same. They are in a different environment but they're still humans.

The great thing about humans is we're each a wealth of memories, choices, talents and experiences. For me, each time you meet someone new, there's a whole universe inside to explore and understand.

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It is always more effective to use the local language in talking to locals. I don't rely on their level of English in order to communicate. Addressing them and talking in their language as I have always done in Germany and Austria also gives them the linguistic opportunity to disclose more. They'll open up to you more.

There were times I was hard pressed in talking French, eg, with a history museum curator/director in Paris, as I slowly but surely spoke the French, trying to get every bit of grammar correct. I asked specifically if he spoke German or English, ( why should he just to make it easier on me?), he just said to proceed with my French. Certainly the guy had patience in listening to me. That attention and patience displayed by curator were just another example to me of the myth that the French will switch over to English upon hearing you're butchering their language.

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I love learning as much language as I can. I still have the (not achieved) goal of being conversant in Spanish, German and French plus learning a little local language wherever I travel. Each time I work on one, however, the others suffer.

A nice thing about living in the DC area is the wide variety of nationalities who live and work here. Two weeks ago I met a group of people at a Wolf Trap concert that included: a French woman, a Swedish woman, a Syrian woman, a Ukrainian woman, a Palestinian man and two British men. I ran into most of them again last night at Wolf Trap.

I also talked briefly to a Russian woman sitting behind me last night. I said "Yellow Blue Bus" (Closest I can come in English, means "I love you" in Russian). She smiled and said, "So soon?" jokingly. In Russia, saying I love you to a woman you don't know is more a compliment than a cheesy pick-up line and always seems to earn a smile. Also met a young Sri Lankan couple sitting in front of me.

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Brad, "Yellow Blue Bus"????? How funny! But evidently effective. For those who don't get it, if I recall (It's been decades!) the Russian for I love you is something like "ya lyublu vas." (or variations thereof.) So I can see how "yellow blue bus" works. Now, " 'scuse me while I kiss this guy...."

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I agree meeting new people is the best...but you have to be open to it.

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I often travel solo to celebrate my May birthdays. I have been hosted by wonderful people. In Ecuadorthe owner of my rental and his wife shared spice cake. In Guatemala I had a wonderful boat tour around the lovely lake. In Slovenia a newly discovered cousin served me home cooked meals in her lovely village home. In 2018 in Greece I had home cooked meals near Andros Island and birthday donuts overlooking the sea and a wonderful 75th B day dinner at a quaint tavern in Tolo Nafplio. What have I learned in my travels...: People are really good at heart " if you travel solo and at a slower pace.