OP again here, and the one who made the comment about people at RS's generally saying "You need a week! you need a month!" . I have to say I've really enjoyed the conversation that came out of my flippant comment and I agree with everything. What fun at this group of travelers.
I'm off in 10 days for my 10th trip to Europe, and both my children (born after my first trip), are living there right now (not influenced by their parents at all). Interesting conversation for sure, and I think I see both sides. I sigh when I see people who post "Never been to Europe, not sure when I'll ever get back, can I do 955 things in X country in 4 days?" type posts, which are clearly ridiculous, but I understand "I've always dreamed of going to XX and I only can only manage one day there." My quip came from reading the boards where I hang out most -- Italy and Switzerland -- and I see the same comment again and again.
On the Italy board, people come in with their Rome-Venice-Florence+ itinerary. And inevitably, people pile in with "OMG you can't reduce Rome to a week! You need a lifetime!" comments, Well, my husband is Italian, and I've done a lot of Italy, and Rome is way down on my priority list. We've been twice, and only for 2-3 days. But then I'm ready to leave. Now, my husband says that we were on a budget for those trips and he thinks we'd like Rome better if we were spending big $$. Sure. But I actually took a university course on Rome and it's importance to culture, and I walked away thinking "meh". It just doesn't interest me, compared to other places in Italy and Europe. I have a similar thing with the Switzerland board and the tourist push for the Bernese Oberland. I've always lived in mountains, that's not what I go to Europe to see. I'm more interested in Swiss culture than look at pretty scenery, But most people haven't lived in mountains, so being in the Alps is amazing to them. We all have our priorities, but most of us have limited time and limited $$. I think here, we're all trying to do our best.
Am I rambling? I think I might be. I did enjoy the conversation, so thank you to everyone who contributed. And also thanks to everyone who gave me travel tips, All noted, :-)