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The privilege of travel

Don't know where to express my thoughts, so pardon me for a non-trip report, report.

I had a fascinating conversation this morning at, of all places, in my dentist's office with the assistant while sitting in the chair for some routine work. This was a young woman, not much older than the students I teach, probably only a couple of years out of dental school. She asked me what I do, and after learning my job, the conversation somehow turned to my summer travels. She was curious about the places I had visited and expressed that she would like to travel as well, but was afraid of leaving the country. The only place she has visited is Florida, and apparently, her family cautioned her against even doing that. She actually said, 'My family told me never to leave NC, and they cried when I told them I was going to Florida'! She mentioned her partner is of Greek heritage, and they would both like to visit Greece. However, she expressed the usual fears of foreign countries, the language barrier, crime, cost, getting around, etc. Being young, I told her to explore backpacking, hostels/airbnbs, public transportation, supermarkets, and local 'fast food' to cut down expenses.

Anyway, what struck me, and I have been contemplating all day, is the mindset of her immediate milieu, that even another state in the USA is 'terra incognita'. But then, who am I to judge their worldview? At the same time, I also realized how lucky I am to be able to travel the way I do, to have the disposable income and time to indulge in an activity that most Americans can only dream of. The conversation reminded me of my formative years in another era and halfway around the world with the same dreams. Only much, much later was I able to start empting my 'bucket list'. This forum is full of people with years of traveling under their feet. We discuss down to the smallest details, museum opening hours, or a favorite restaurant in a tiny mountain village. We complain about crowds, train strikes, and the lack of air-conditioning. We school a new poster about moving too fast and the benefits of slow travel. But just to be able to do it-that's a gift above all else.

This conversation was a dose of reality I needed to not take my privilege for granted and savor every moment I have left to indulge this desire to 'see'. Unlike Roy Batty, I haven't seen c-beams glitter at the Tannhauser Gate, but I did watch specks of dust sparkle in beams of sunlight inside a church in Segovia. I hope these young people get to make their own memories as I have.

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Hoe the row we've been granted -- if you are in the education racket, use your position to enlighten people about the welcoming and awe-striking encounters they can have when they put on their travel hats.

I'm envious of so many people who have less formal schooling than I have had, but have been all over the world, as models or movie crew or military logistics or other jobs that get one around a lot. The stereotype about fashion models, for instance, is that they are just another pretty face, but when you get to talk with them you find that they have learned from experiences that are rare and amplified.

Tell your students to go out and make their own luck (and memories) before they are lost, like tears in rain.

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Hi, wow, I am so surprised that someone would be afraid to cross state lines!

I had my dental cleaning last week, too, and the topic of my latest travel always gets brought up. It’s probably written in my file as the topic to discuss! Anyway, I do try to keep it toned down because the hygenist is a young mom, and they’re pouring their money into remodeling an old home. But she does like to hear about destinations.

My husband & I didn’t go to Europe until our 25th anniversary. Family priorities & paying kids’ college, etc. took away any thoughts of big trips during the years prior to that anniversary.

Now it definitely does feel like a sweet privilege to travel. I am so grateful that I feel comfortable traveling & it’s such an enjoyable hobby to take up lots of time researching, planning & dreaming of the next trip! It can all be taken away much quicker than we realize…

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“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime.”

― Mark Twain, The Innocents Abroad / Roughing It

Alas, that’s really not true. Still, travel done right broadens one’s perspective— a fella named Rick Steves said something like that and that guy seemed to have his head screwed on right.

Good dental hygiene likewise promotes fewer cavities— just like having the spatial judgement to pick a good suitcase that fits in most airplane cabins at no extra fee. Both are privileges. I remember watching Peter Jackson’s They Shall Not Grow Old WW1 documentary and thinking “wow, war is bad, a lot of bad teeth in WW 1 and traveling to Europe for that reason isn’t as fun as a Rick Steves tour”. I have the privilege of healthy teeth and good travel stories!

Some people are born old and others are still young at 80. I don’t know what makes folks want to go down the road and others stay close to home. What Rick Steves really helps with though is for the folks who wander to Europe, he teaches them how to do it a little better. Seems like a decent thing todo. And doing a little better, hopefully learning and seeing new perspectives, well, I hope it prevents future wars ‘cause WW 1 was not good. Just look at their teeth!

Happy travels.

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alomaker, I agree that our love for (and ability to) travel is a gift above all else. I was not well traveled as a child, and my parents didn't start traveling until they retired. But I read a lot as a child (and now) and that gave me access to all the lands out there that were there for the wandering.

It is ironic that two of you are talking about dental hygienists. I always talk to my dental hygienist about travel because she loves travel as well, although, like the others, she's a young woman with small children, so does not have the opportunity to do so right now. But she always asks me about my trips and always loves to hear about them. I hope that one day, as her kids get older, or even before then, she will get up the initiative to travel. I've told her that I know a lot of people who travel with young children, and so she has that in the back of her head now.

I do like to think that we can be ambassadors promoting travel, and get the word out that it does not have to be hugely expensive and can be done pretty easily with the right preparation.

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I grew up a Navy brat, and as a kid the only people that I knew that traveled were US Navy sailors.

I'm envious of so many people who have less formal schooling than I have had, but have been all over the world, as models or movie crew or military logistics or other jobs that get one around a lot.

In turn the most formally educated people I know were US military personnel.

...I am so surprised that someone would be afraid to cross state lines!

Ya know, a 12 hour 750 mile European road trip gets one from London to Turin, Italy. Twelve hours and 750 miles in the US gets me from Williamsburg to Nashville.

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I understand that some people in today's world are wary of visiting some states or certainly some cities, much less leaving the country. But traveling from North Carolina to Florida (with Orlando and the beaches of the Panhandle)? This one shocks me. North Carolina is a state of great diversity on nearly every level. I am assuming the conversation didn't take place in the Triangle or Charlotte.

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But a 11.5 hour 829 mile drive (our roads are better) only gets you from Brownsville, Texas to El Paso, Texas. Not even out of the state!

The fact that I plan on spending money on trips across the ocean instead of having to worry how to buy groceries makes me privileged.
The fact that I as an individual can make as large a carbon footprint on holiday as many of the world’s inhabitants make in a year, makes me privileged.
The fact that my passport requires no visas to the majority of the world makes me privileged.
The fact that I had the opportunity to have an advanced education makes me privileged.
The fact that I live in a country where I can openly complain makes me privileged.
The fact that I leave the US at will, without government permission, makes me privileged.
That fact that I grew up in a country where it was so easy to go from nothing to having all that I was willing to work for makes me privileged.

I am privileged and I thank G-d each day for the gift; and in recognition of my privilege, I give back (but never enough). שלום ואהבה

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I grew up with a lot of people like that - vacation was a pontoon boat at the lake. Maybe Vegas or Disneyworld if they want to risk exotic theme parks. There are always people around who want to discourage you from anything different, and project their own insecurities on you. Imagination and curiosity are things hard to teach to unwilling adults.

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I grew up with a lot of people like that - vacation was a pontoon boat at the lake. Maybe Vegas or Disneyworld if they want to risk exotic theme parks.

That's written as though those are some how something less than a European vacation. Disney isn't a cheap vacation costing as much as a jaunt to Europe and what could be more relaxing and peaceful than a vacation chilling on a pontoon boat on a lake? Something that someone has probably worked very hard to have and enjoy. I'm not looking down on that.

The extent of my vacations as a kid were going to grandad's farm, camping & hiking, or our great summer of '79 road trip from the Atlantic coast to the PNW and back.

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"I grew up with a lot of people like that - vacation was a pontoon boat at the lake."

Same for me, skip the pontoon boat. :)

"― Mark Twain, The Innocents Abroad / Roughing It"

If you read that, there was one group of Travelers with Mark Twain who strongly refused any "foreign" influence. So no, Travel won't do it itself if done with the wrong mindset.

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Step one: add fluoride to the water and prevent cavities!

Step two: Florence!

Step three: Gelato!

Step four: Back to the dentist (because of the treats!)

Happy travels.

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There are many people who never leave the place they were born, all over the world. The sad thing to me is being afraid to explore and even worse that your family would hold you back instead of encouraging you.

Truly a privilege to be able to travel, to have these discussions, to meet people from elsewhere and revel in our commonality as well as differences. I learn so much on every trip.

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There are many people who never leave the place they were born, all
over the world. The sad thing to me is being afraid to explore and
even worse that your family would hold you back instead of encouraging
you.

I know one family like that. 3 generations barely making end meet composing the most loving, tightest, caring family that could be imagined possible. No, they aren't missing anything not going to Rome.

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Of course people make rational choices based on their circumstances and preferences. It's the people who discourage others from traveling outside their own comfort zone that I take issue with.

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" It's the people who discourage others from traveling outside their own comfort zone that I take issue with."

Depends. I've had people worried/concerned about my safety traveling. Their fears aren't my fears but their concern is appreciated.

And then there are others...

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My four grandparents rarely left the state of Indiana. My father grew up in Fort Wayne Indiana and my mother in Peru Indiana (a town so obscure that its only claim to fame is that Cole Porter was born there). But they both moved to New York city, met there, and married, and began to travel the world.

They were far more adventurous than I am, going to China, Vietnam, India, Africa, Egypt, South America, Russia, and elsewhere --- places I've never been. They took me to many other countries as a child, though, and also as an adult when I could never have afforded it myself. So I will always be grateful for that privilege and that introduction to what the wider world has to offer, especially its art and food. They loved to meet people, too, which did not rub off on me --- I almost wrote "sadly," but I'm not sad about it.

We all travel for different reasons, and the people I know who do not travel have their reasons, too --- one of my kids, for instance, despite enjoying going to Mexico, Puerto Rico, France, Sicily, and Venice as a child, has not traveled abroad since.

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Thanks y'all (yes, appropriated terminology but so expressive that I can't help it!) for chiming in. Reading your comments with great interest.

@ avirosemail and Sam: a couple of fans in the group! One of my all-time favorite movies and a frequent reference in my cinematography classes. Watch it every couple of years, and while writing to a like-minded cousin, we put a line from the film in as a closing quote. We call our Zoom sessions 'Vidphone' calls. And by the way, the Tannhauser Gate actually exists in the form of a bookshop in Caceres, Spain. So technically, I have been there!

@RJ: Not in the Triangle but in the Triad area in a city with 3 universities, 2 major hospital systems, and an apparently thriving bio-tech industry. I suppose, as with many of my students, her family is outside of this zone, and therefore, likely that they have a very different worldview.

@ Mr. E.: I consider it a privilege that, due to a past job as Blu-Ray QC tech, I can recognize the text at the end of your comment. I had to look up the translation, though. Peace and love to you.

Being a filmmaker, I love to hear stories, yours and from the people I meet on my travels. I particularly enjoy engaging young people and hearing their thoughts. Sometimes similar and at others, vastly different from my American students. That itself is a privilege. Keep them coming.

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More important is that the Aggies are undefeated for the first time in a lifetime and I am too far away to go or to see on TV. No, I am not privileged.

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@ Sam321: There was no mention of religion, elderly family members, or why they cautioned her. However, you are entitled to your opinion, projection, and speculation.

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Alomaker, I enjoyed your post, and laughed because travel is what my husband and I always talk about with our dental hygienists too. (They must recommend this in hygienist/dental tech school.)

I was stunned that anyone would think you were judging the person you chatted with (and knowing dental offices, that was far beyond a 5 minute conversation that you had.) You encouraged the person, and used the experience to reflect on the privilege of traveling that you enjoy. I share those thoughts. Kudos to you for your post and for your gracious, grownup response to the sideways comment.