I’ll say upfront that this trip report will be a more personal, reflective one in case you would like to skip that type. I purposely titled it with “widow” because that new descriptor greatly influenced this trip as you will read. I hope this report is especially an encouragement to our widows on the forum and others in general. Travel allows time to process, to be adventurous, to absorb beauty and appreciate life. My hotel Elba outside of Estepona said it well in their fruit bowl welcome note to me, “We don’t travel to escape from life. We travel so that life does not escape from us.”
This was a very different trip from my normal numerous cities/changing hotels often types of trips. With both the positive & harder experiences during this trip, I am so glad I came. I wrote this report both as a travel detail log & reflective thoughts each day. This time, my trip report was written more for me than for you, forum readers, although it still has helpful travel specifics.
This was my 20th trip to Europe, and my first one as a widow. My active husband died peacefully & unexpectedly last May at home while I was actually in Italy - such a shock to our family & friends! This 2025 February trip was supposed to be our return to southern Spain since we enjoyed the same so much in February 2024. I cancelled everything & later decided it should be done but shortened. I knew being there with so many fresh memories would be helpful in my grieving/healing. I purposely gave myself permission upfront to choose or skip anything during the trip that might make this trip logistically or emotionally “kinder” - and yes, that did happen.
The hour before I was to head to the airport, I was walking through each room of my home and having a hard time, emotionally. The last room was our bonus room which is filled with golf decor, his hole-in-one wall golf trophy & some photos on canvas I took of him & our son at his home course. They’re looking straight at me in the center one.
Looking at it, the words he said to our oldest daughter when they were running a momentus race together suddenly fit so well as if he was also saying them to me right then. “Don’t let me hold you back. You need to go forward! Keep going, GO!” in that encouraging way. So off I went, and here I am again in Spain.
My Itinerary: Fly from Spokane, to Minneapolis, to Amsterdam, to Malaga. Immediately take a train to Cordoba.
Cordoba- 3 nights
Sevilla - 4 nights
Marbella - 2 nights (this is my only new city)
Estepona - 1 night
Malaga - 3 nights (coinciding with their Carnaval Malaga)
Preparation:
I really appreciated any organizing that made this trip easier. Having my custom packing list ready to print from last year & knowing my Cotopaxi 35L packed would be at 13.5 pounds made packing a very easy task.
Neighbors nicely took care of my home - checking it each day. The lawn service removed 8” of snow while I was gone, and my daughter’s family spoiled my dog at their home.
Forum help:
Thank you, CWsocial for your correspondence that gave me additional ideas! The evening light show at the Alcazar at Sevilla came directly from you. Priscilla, I enjoyed our texts during my trip, and your warm conversation & real-time hints, also!
Pre-Excitement:
I put off finishing some travel photo books, but I completed my Spain 2024 photo book with Mixbook in January. Leafing through the pages of the book brought back so many wonderful memories and helped build the anticipation again for this trip!