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Travel Tour suggestions for our Graduating High School Senior

Does anyone have experience traveling with young adult family members? We're considering a family trip with our young adult kids and are researching tours, including a Rick Steves tour. Has anyone traveled with young adult family members on one of Rick Steves' tours?

A bit of background: my husband and I were older parents — we waited to have kids while working and finishing college. Funny enough, about 20 years ago we actually worked abroad ourselves, teaching in London and Florence! We've appreciated Rick Steves' research and guidebooks over the years, so his tours feel like a natural fit as we think about traveling with our kids.

When we started our family, it was during the economic recession, which impacted us significantly. Then we all endured the COVID quarantine and lockdowns. (Funny — we never made it to that famous "D-place" in CA or FL, though we definitely felt the pressure! Lol.) My husband and I always planned to travel abroad with our kids, but we simply couldn't afford that luxury. Now we're finally in a position to introduce our (now) adult kids to travel.

Our son is graduating high school this year. He's a bit hesitant about traveling, partly due to cost and partly some nervousness about the experience. He enjoys baseball, taking care of our pets, and works as a lifeguard — he also loves history. We thought booking a tour might be a great graduation present and a good way to introduce him to the joys of travel.

Our eldest daughter has been traveling to Kenya to help women there and is studying to become a nurse. She has a real spirit of adventure.

Does anyone on this forum have suggestions for good tours to consider for a family in our situation? Thank you!

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The RS Switzerland tour is great, for many reasons, but the emphasis is on outdoor activity, with minimal churches and museums. Switzerland is like an adult Disneyland, with the spectacular gondolas and lifts and trails and paragliding and swinging bridges (Titlus). We have been on tours with teens, and the group dynamics were great!

The Swiss transportation system is world class, so planning a trip on your own is also quite doable. You'll receive incredible advice here if you choose that option. The one advantage of planning your own trip is having more time in the Berner Oberland than the RS itinerary allows.

In any case, have a memorable family trip.

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We may. similar in our travel. We delayed children for similar reason. Wife had second son at 40. For us the use of ocean cruises around Europe solve a lot of problems but we were traveling with the our sons when they were early, mid teens and continue with spouses twenty years later. We liked the cruises for the economy and flexibility provided when the boys were younger.

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Have you asked them where they would like to go? And what are their interests? That's going to be important because if you take them someplace where they're bored to death, they'll hate it.

If they like hiking and the outdoors, then places like Scotland, Norway, and Switzerland spring to mind. Keep in mind that Norway and Switzerland are both very expensive. Scotland is a really cool country and quite beautiful, but not quite as expensive. Germany is also a good country to visit because it's got a lot of beautiful scenery, is great for the outdoors, but also has a good amount of art and history there.

And if they're interested in history and art, Italy and France are both great. Both also have beautiful scenery and good food.

England is a fun place to visit and is high on the comfort level, since everyone speaks English. Although, of course, most people speak English in Norway and Switzerland and many other countries, there is a certain comfort about being in a country where everyone speaks the language you do (to a certain extent).

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First choice is Italy. Any of the RS tours sound great. I'm smiling just thinking about it.

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I began RSTing with my daughter when she was 20, choosing tours based on my interest and during her school break availability. Venice Florence Rome was our first and its an RST best seller for good reason. We also vastly enjoyed our Best of Paris, Barcelona and Madrid, Best of South Italy, Best of Sicily, Loire to the South of France and Heart of Italy tours. I'm a firm believer 'travel is the only thing you pay for that makes you richer' and consider providing these experiences to my kid as one of my best accomplishments. Suggest you browse tour offerings here and when you've got questions on particular locations you're considering, ask away. I enjoy the travel planning and if you think any others of your party do too, share the duties and research. Happy travels to you and yours!

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How much time do you have available?

RS tours range from 7 to 21 days. Hard to recommend a tour when your time frame is unknown.

Perhaps have the reluctant son look over the RS tour menu and see if he sees anything he likes or is willing to consider. If he comes up with a short list, tell the forum and you will get lots of feedback on each one and some insight on what may work best for your family.

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It doesn't sound like a great graduation present for this particular young man. Maybe frame it as a family Xmas present instead. I assume you mean that his graduation will be in May or June of 2027 and that the trip will be after that. What are his plans after graduation? Won't he want to work another summer at his lifeguarding job before he heads off to college (or whatever)? And what will your daughter's availability be to travel with the family next summer?

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I have taken 12 Rick Steves tours. On several of them, young adults were accompanying their parents or other older relatives. Off the top of my head, there were young adults on tours in Istanbul, the Basque Country, Portugal, Paris and Sicily. I always enjoy these young adults immensely. It is important that they feel comfortable being around mostly older tour mates.

Almost any RS tour would be fine, but they do have different emphases - history, culture, art, the outdoors, food - so you really need to look at the itinerary and the inclusions to figure out what appeals to your particular family. I would definitely include your son in picking one out. You never know what he might like (my own granddaughter told me she wasn’t interested in Paris - imagine that!)

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I guess I'd ask first what your family has under their belt for travel within the US? If you've done little of that then I'd understand his hesitancy. Then again, if you've traveled quite a bit domestically as a family, how did that go? Where did you go and what sorts of things did you do that all of you, including your son, enjoyed? Was it a happy experience for him?

I think it's less a matter of booking a tour as planning a graduation present that would appeal to HIS interests so it's not YOUR trip. No sense spending the $$$ and the planning time if a tour abroad is not what he wants? I was a different sort of young person: headed off to Europe with a choir (no parents or siblings along) a month just a few weeks after graduation and couldn't wait to go. We're not all the same. That's OK.

Anyway, if this trip is to be a gift, then it needs to be a gift HE will enjoy. That doesn't necessarily mean travel abroad but maybe somewhere he's got in the back of his head...and I do NOT mean the "D" place!

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Each suggestion has been so helpful! A bit of sage-like advice in each response. What a lovely forum! Keep the suggestions coming — much appreciated!

I've never done an official Rick Steves tour and thought having a tour guide would take off some of the pressure in the parent–young adult/teen dynamics that can occur with "why are we doing that" and "don't you know where you're going!?" LOL. Though getting a little lost is part of the fun for my husband and me. Though it's not the same, I would fall into a "responsible" mother role. I think going on a tour would ameliorate that — I'm thinking the guide can lead the way to the adventure instead ;-) If I am mistaken or if you have any thoughts on the question and your experience on Rick Steve's tours and travels please share. Thank you!

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You may be on the right track about the tour guide. RS tour guides are the best! They work really hard to make sure everyone has a good time, regardless of age or experience, and they handle the logistics seamlessly. They are generally knowledgeable, kind and fun! They certainly takes the pressure off in terms of being the “responsible “ person. They are also helpful with suggestions and information for your free time (RS tours build in a nice balance between organized touring and free time).

Once you narrow down the possibilities, you can call the RS office to see if a particular tour and date has other younger participants. I have found that they are willing to share the general characteristics of those who are signed up (couples, singles, family groups, etc.) Your son may enjoy the tour more if there are a couple other young people on it. (Although I will say that I’ve observed that many younger people don’t necessarily hit it off with each other and spend more time with other generations or their own family members.)

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Yes we have done Rick Steves tours with our kids as kids (daughter was 10 & son 14) I don’t think they would let her go now at that age. My son has done 4 tours. The last when he was in College. When he graduated from HS we did the 14 day Europe tour. We went in Aug & there were other kids (teenagers) on the tour.

My daughter as a young adult has done two more tours with us including last year & the year before She is no dummy if parents are paying. She became a confident traveler & that experience helped her when she studied abroad in College a few years ago

What we like about RS tours is the half the time usually is free time. If you aren’t sure I would start with a city tour. You can go early or stay late to see other sites. We have done Paris, London , and Rome with our kids. We even went to Disneyland Paris before our Paris tour.

I understand your son being concerned not growing up traveling but what a wonderful education you can give him by doing it now.
The guides are always amazing and all were very wonderful to my kids. We found down time helped with teenage boys. Time for video games or texting friends at home or just letting them wonder a city by themself.

Feel free to DM if you have any other questions. I say go! Enjoy. A little bit out of their comfort zone is good for their growth.

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Be sure to come back to let us know what the family/graduate chooses!

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Hi, I don't think you mentioned whether your children have taken a foreign language in school? If yes, do they have an interest in a particular country based on language(s) or interest in a certain culture or history? As has been mentioned, their interests should weigh into this.

Have had good experiences on all the RS tours I've taken and have traveled on the Rome and Venice-Florence-Rome tours with teens and college students (spring break timeframe). As said, England's also a good entry point for anyone who hasn't traveled much. Good luck as you research ideas!

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Let him look at RS tours and see if any appeal to him. If not, I would not make a trip his graduation present. Loving history, he might enjoy England. If so, be sure to go to the Churchill Rooms in London. If he likes ancient history, Greece or Italy.

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Hello,

Although I haven't gone on a Rick Steves Tour with a young adult family member, I have travelled several weeks in Europe with my daughter when she was about a year younger than your son ( and again when she was a bit older).

So I am going to suggest something a bit different. You mention that your son is concerned about the cost but that he loves history. How about going to Greece?

There are a couple of companies that offer 3, 4, and 7 day tours of the mainland of Greece (and of course, Rick Steves also offers a tour). The price for the 4 day Classical tour (offered by C.H.A.T. tours and Fantasy Travel) comes out to about $740/person. When we went on this tour in June of 2018 there were several young adults traveling with relatives.

https://chat-tours.com/tour/4-days-classical-tour-tour-9/

I am happy to give you more information about what you could do in Greece if you think he might be interested.

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Are the teens morning people? I ask because many tours are out the door by 8:30am each day, and if your teens aren't fond of that, perhaps planning your own tour would be best.
We did the Venice- Florence -Rome RS tour, and there were early starts and late dinners (the culture.) I was absolutely exhausted afterwards. The early starts made sense, as the guide got us into museums before the crowds. But backed up against a late dinners, it was too much for me.

The Swiss RS tour was more relaxed, and had some later starts. On one of our last days, we didn't leave the hotel until a glorious 11:00am! I went to breakfast at 10:00 and expected the room to be empty- but no- 80% of the group was also enjoying a late start. Only three folks had been out early exploring before check out.

Have fun planning!

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The only time my parents took me outside the United States was to Toronto and Niagara Falls in Ontario, Canada. I took a 4-week Yiddish Class in Vilnius, Lithuania, when I was 24. Then I didn't manage to travel far from home again until I was 32. My grandfather on my dad's side took my 3 boy-first cousins to Mexico when I was 12 but my mom said no and I didn't go. My mom is 73 but she has never taken a plane flight. She still freaks out every time I travel far from home. Yeah, fear of my mother's reaction is my biggest worry in travel. I took 7 solo trips to different parts of Europe in my adult life so far, in addition to some shorter solo trips to cities in our own country and Mexico and Peru. I have not considered taking a whole-trip group-guided-tour (yet). My top reasons are because I don't want to keep worrying about how much or how little I need to talk to my fellow tour participants, and what if there is a problem person in my tour group?

If your son is hesitant about traveling, why are you worrying about taking a trip with him? Why wouldn't you plan a trip with just you and your husband, but offer your son the chance to travel with you. He could come with you or stay home alone; he could plan his own trip alone or with friends or a significant other, soon or later or never.

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I take a Rick Steves tour with my teenage son every summer as soon as school lets out. He loves them! We did the Greece tour when he was 15, the South Italy tour this past summer (he's 16), and we've already signed up for the Turkey tour upcoming. I was worried before we started that he would be isolated with all the older people (50s and up), but he's been a gem and helpful to everyone. He helps the older solo women with their bags, he goes on hikes and treks with some of the other more active/adventurer RS couples (without me!), and he listens avidly to the tour guides. He's made me very proud, and I think he would say that it's become the highlight of his year. Also one of the best things I've ever done as a parent. We call these our Rick Steves Art and Ruins tours.

On our Greece tour, there was a 19yo girl traveling with her grandmother, so that was nice for him to have someone nearer his own age, but he still mingled just wonderfully with everyone. This past tour in South Italy (Ancient Roman Empire) was very small and all older couples, other than myself and him, so we mostly just spent lovely time together. It helps that he is a huge history buff and enjoys the tour content, and our two guides so far have been wonderful with him.

Like your son, my son loves history. The Greece itinerary was his dream come true. I have already done the Turkey tour solo, but I'm repeating it so that he can do it, and he's going to love everything about it.

I mean - maybe I'm being crazy, but you should book the Turkey tour with us, - it's in mid June after graduation timing - and our boys (mine will be going into senior year HS) will have company, and your daughter with a spirit of adventure can't help but fall in love with Istanbul and the religious diversity of Konya and going up in a hot air balloon over Capadoccia.