Paris clubbing alone

This is an interesting question I've never seen posted before and am looking forward to the responses you get, I'm an male the same age as you, so in that regard I don't have any specific advise but on the main Helpline page there is a section two slots below this one "Travel Partners" that may be of help, see if there are other women with a similar interest that are in Paris the same time as you.

"Would it be safe to go alone in Paris?" - Yes, it's perfectly safe to go clubbing alone in Paris provided you don't drink too much and impair your judgment. "Would it look like I want a pick up?" - Whether you are in your 20s or your 50s, it depends on certain factors. Some women dress up for clubbing and know that they can look sexy and attractive without giving away the farm. Others take their style cues from "Jersey Shore" and when you dress like that and your thong may fall off while you are dancing, or a breast may pop out, then yeah, that may look like someone who wants to hook up with a man for the night. Then there are almost always a couple of French men who will hit on you once they realize you are American. They know that American women often have a stereotype of the suave romantic French man from movies, so they will play that card to the hilt and tell you all about how you haven't lived until you have made love to a French man and how you should immediately start with the one standing in front of you. If you know how to snub a pushy guy in a dance club in Cleveland, you can use the same approach in Paris. "Non means No!" even in France. The other thing to be wary of is letting a stranger buy you a drink and keeping tabs on your drink throughout the night. Never let a stranger get you a drink that isn't handed directly to you from the bartender and that you personally watched the bartender pour. And don't leave your drink sitting unattended on a table to go dance or head to the ladies room. Finish the drink first.

Back in the day, when I used to go out to dance......I used to hate it when people started to dance with me. i didn't mind dancing with a group but not with another person. Weird, I know. So when I decided to travel to London solo, I planned out where I wanted to go to listen to the type of music I was into (house, electronic music). I found a place and started to look around and saw not too many gals around. Mainly just large groups of men (with terrible body odor, I might add). Only a few dancers. So when a tune came on with a good beat, I would start to dance and then it would turn into "Night at the Roxybury". Click here, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SpwK3vFGJp0 if you don't know what I mean, and pay attention to approximately 50 seconds in . More than one guy would come in and shove his crotch onto me and his buddy would join in on the other side. I was assaulted every time I went to dance. I would go to a different room and another pack of guys would force their smelly bodies on my. After an hour of this, I left. This did not happen to me in Spain, where everyone dances their heart and soul out til daylight. edit: I tried 3 times to format my post so you could just click on the webaddress and it did not work. SO you will just have to cut and paste. Sorry
Good luck and be prepared to be dance assaulted

There is a jazz club that I have been to a couple of times that might work for you. Caveau de la Huchette is near the St. Michel Metro stop, very close to the Notre Dame on he left bank. It's a really fun place and there are lots of people dancing. I would think that if found a place to sit close to the dace floor, you would find people that you could dance with. When I have been there is mostly swing and people are on the dance floor because they obviously love to dance. It doesnt' feel at all like a pick up place. Lots of fun!

Girl, you go for it!!! and please let me know how it works out for you. I'm in a similar situation. I'm a little older than you and am hoping to go clubbing in Ibiza and Amsterdam. EDM, esp Trance is my secret obsession. (Well, not secret now) Maybe late at night, dim lights.....I might get away with it. I know I will try...so good luck and enjoy.

I have no personal experience to impart. But I assume Paris is like Cleveland, New York, or cities the world over: whether someone tries to pick you up or makes otherwise unwanted advances depends partly on you and partly on the club. There are clubs known more for dancing, and those known more for pickups. To try to determine which is which, I'd look at a source, such as Time Out Paris or maybe Lonely Planet that has detailed club listings. An oldie but a goodie: go to gay clubs, where you know you won't be hassled, you are likely to meet straight women who are also looking to dance rather than find a "date," and (if you speak enough French or you find an English speaker) you can get further information about "safe" places.

i am sure it would be safe. i have been out and about, enjoying nightlife around europe. sometimes with friends, sometimes solo. i think it's more safety precautions/common sense getting to/from the clubs. i loved harold's suggestion........gay clubs. some of my best nightlife memories (i am straight). usually great music, positive high energy vibe, everyone is drinking and dancing and happy AND you don't have to be worried about being hit on or dance-assaulted like the other post described. using the travel partner wanted link from this board, as somenone mentioned, is a good tip. Also, i have used couchsurfing quite regularly. even if you aren't looking for a couch/place to crash, you can find a local that can show you around and go out with you at night. i have done this in amsterdam, nice, lisbon to name a few and it has been a great experience. you get to go to local spots and you don't have to worry about being alone!

I say go for it! It is safe. I mean - go to a nice club in a nice location, obviously - but anywhere central, that's on a lighted street and is crowded, will be safe. I'm late 40s, married, and often peel off from hubby to go to a pub or a bar late-night when he's exhausted from tramping up and down all day and just wants to have a quiet sit-down in a cafe - or watch football on the TV in the hotel room. In Paris I have found the pick-up scene to be pretty much exactly like the pick-up scene in New York City, my hometown. Dress like you DON'T want too much attention. Fend off mashers the way you would anywhere else. If the crowd is too young and you don't feel comfy, beat it to another place. Striking up a conversation with another solo woman - or group of women - can be really helpful - not to mention FUN! The one thing that I have noticed that is worth mentioning is that being on the "wrong side" of 40 doesn't seem to be as much of a big deal in Paris. It's actually kind of a lift - being greeted not like the out-of-place-old-lady! Have a GREAT time!

I would say nightlife in general in Europe tends to allow for a wider variety of ages than you typically see in the U.S., which is nice. Even in my early 30s I feel out of place at some dance clubs in the US where everyone is under 27. Not a problem here, older Europeans love to party as much as their younger counterparts. Gay clubs are a good suggestion, although I DID get "dance-assaulted" at one in Munich, hilariously. I think the guy was on MDMA and was VERY touchy feely and insistent to dance with me. At a straight club I would've slapped him.