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In Prague, as a single woman, why was I refused service at 3 restaurants?

I was dress very conservatively, but was refused service.
1. Restaurant/Bar near my hotel. At 8:30 pm walked in and asked if they had an open table. The host looked at me and said they were no longer serving.
2. I left and went to Italian restaurant across the street. The host took me past 2 empty tables for 2 to the basement to a private dining room where one a large family of 20 were having a party. I was left alone with no water, no waiter, and no menu for 20 minutes. When I got up and left, the hostess asked me if something was wrong. I told here I did not like being ignored and placed in the cellar.
3. The next evening I went to a restaurant doing a great business at 7:30 pm. I sat down in the bar at a table and told my waiter that I wanted to have dinner when he had a table open. His English was not too good. After that a young female who spoke better English came over and told me that the kitchen had taken all the orders they could fill for the night, so they could not serve me. I notice two more parties of 2 joined others at their tables while I finished my wine.
4. I went into a very modern style restaurant in same neighborhood. They seated me at a table - IN THE FRONT WINDOW of the restaurant. The host originally placed my menu on the chair so I would face the wall, but I moved it so I could face the rest of the diners.

I wore a nice turtle neck sweater, slacks, nice shoes. Since it was January, I did have on a down jacket.

Why was I treated this way in Prague? Are they opposed to single females dining alone in the evening? I'm a 59 year old white business woman and have travel the US on business for years eating alone in all types of restaurants. This had never happened to be before and I want to know why it happened in Prague.

Posted by
7544 posts

Maybe a string of bad coincidences, but certainly to a degree, they may not want a single diner taking up a table for two or more. Travelling solo can have it's challenges, both hotels and restaurants seem to prefer to hold out for doubles or triples, especially in peak season, rather than take a sure single.

Posted by
8293 posts

I'm sure you must realize that none of us can answer your question as to why this happened, we can only commiserate. If you have a Czech friend who could help in writing a letter to a Prague newspaper about your experience, or hire a translator to do so, it may allow you to put the unpleasantness behind you.

Posted by
14983 posts

IN some cultures, there is a stigma to a single woman dining alone. It is considered improper for a woman to not be escorted into a place of eating or drinking. It's archaic but some cultures still believe it.

You may have just lucked out into finding some that still believe it. Or, you just had bad luck in general.

I doubt it was personal.

Posted by
3580 posts

Just a guess, but in many places a woman alone is assumed to be looking for male "companionship." I had this experience several times in various countries of Europe over the years. I was out sightseeing when I was approached by men. Your age and how you dress aren't necessarily factors. If you want to eat out, I suggest you just bow to the prevailing mores and eat earlier in the day at less formal establishments.

Posted by
990 posts

It's true that single diners are not as profitable as multiple diners. But single women are particularly disfavored, I think. I travel for business a lot and dine alone when I do. I usually try to make a reservation in advance--then if a restaurant would rather not have a solo diner, they can tell me upfront. Having said that, I found that in Montreal, two places that confirmed my "reservation for one" over the phone decided that they didn't have a table after all when I showed up. I honestly don't think it's concern about prostitution--I'm Charlotte's age and dress conservatively, and frankly, no way would I be mistaken for a "lady of the night." I do think that there's still some residual belief that women ought to be accompanied, and perhaps a concern that a single woman won't spend as much as a single man.

Reservations, though, are a single's best friend. Almost all of the time, it saves the time and emabarassment of not being seated.

Posted by
1358 posts

Who can guess why it happened.

If it happens to you again I would try to find a couple or other females in a group to ask if you could dine with them.

In Yugoslavia years ago my wife and I asked to join another couple from Italy at their table when we could not find a vacant table. It turned out to be fun.

I would not hesitate to ask.

Posted by
65 posts

Charlotte, I am an expat living in Prague & I am shocked at the service you received. It may have been just a string of bad luck, but it may have been Czech hospitality- or lack of it.

Czech customer service is among the worst in the world & Czechs (read: Praguers) tend to be quite ethnocentric & uncaring when it comes to foreigners in their country. But it's also par for the course to wait a long time for servers (20 minutes is not uncommon.)

If you remember the names of the restaurants or the area you were in & send me a PM, I may be able to give you more information.

Posted by
1158 posts

Hard to say what the issue was, but I can tell you that in Europe women don't go out by themselves especially in a bar/restaurant.
Serving water without asking might not be cutomary in European.

Posted by
8293 posts

I wish Charlotte would check back in and tell us what she thinks of the various replies to her heartfelt complaint.

Posted by
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My heartfelt thanks to all of you for your comments and insight. Being new to european travel, I never want to be rude or make a horrible mistake for their culture. I thank you all for helping me to understand that though they may be in a different country, people are all the same; some rude, some with different standards for women, some just being themselves - good or bad, regardless of my USA standards. Thank You. I will be returning to Paris for Christmas and to Amsterdam for New Years. It would take a lot more than my Prage experience to make me stop traveling, it is such a wonderful breath of fresh air and life enhancing.

Again, Thanks to all of you. Keep Traveling!

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I am a European woman about your age and have done a lot of worldwide travelling, very often alone. I never had any problems until my arrival in Athens. Around noon decently dressed and politely I asked for a table and was immediately and very rudely sent out of three restaurants.

Back home I wanted to know what my fault might have been. When I discussed it with Greeks they very very reluctantly agreed that, no matter how modern and educated they pretend to be, they have a deep rooted disdain for single women in restaurants. They think you should either be surrounded by a circle of friends or you are a living proof that something is wrong with you, either morally or socially.

I do not know what the reason in Prague was but it was certainly not your fault. I know how humiliating this experience is and wish to apologize for any bad European behaviour you met with.

Posted by
990 posts

Frankly, I don't want to give my business to a restaurant owner with anti-female attitudes any more than I'd want to give my business to someone who was racist. So, rather than pantomime a "missed date," I'd rather call in advance and determine whether my business is welcome or not. Just my 2 cents...

Posted by
2349 posts

So maybe we women could try this the next time one of us is refused service when alone. Walk in, say there is another coming, order wine, look at watch, drink some wine, look at watch, take an imaginary cell phone call, say your companion couldn't make it, and order. They might feel sorry that you've been stood up, and be nice. If this works, we may create a trend in Eastern Europe that restauranteurs talk about-the lonely woman who gets stood up and dines alone. Is the humiliation of a fake ditching worth it to pull it over on a restaurant owner with what we think are antiquated ideas?

Posted by
8942 posts

The poster who said that "in Europe women do not go out alone" is wrong. This is absurd. Of course they do. Europe is a big place, it is a continent with over 440 million people in it. Just because in Prague something like this happened doesn't mean it is like this everywhere. If it had happened to me, I would have made a stink, including calling the police and making a complaint about discrimination. Believe me, the restaurant would have thought twice about about doing something so stupid again. Why allow yourselves to be treated so shabbily? Like meek little women who do whatever they are supposed to do. Have a touch of backbone and pride and do not allow behavior like this to be condoned.

Posted by
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There is certainly no accounting for tastes but threatening a restaurant owner with the police is probably not everyone's idea of spending a pleasant evening.

Posted by
8942 posts

I suppose being asked to leave a restaurant is a wonderful way to spend an evening? My point was not to take shabby treatment just because you are a woman and to point out that women all over Europe,in many different countries go out to eat and GASP, yes, to bars by themselves with no one blinking an eye.

Posted by
258 posts

Charlotte, I would like to think you just had a string of bad luck :(

I have travelled solo to Europe twice and was never refused a table. Once in Paris they wouldn't sit me outside, but said I could sit inside. Which is understandable that they would want to sit 4 people at that table outside instead of just me... But to be refused service is rude and tacky IMO. Those restaurants should be ashamed of themselves. Sorry you had to deal with that, wishing you better luck on your future travels.

Posted by
116 posts

I'm with Jo on this one. Women certainly DO go out alone in Europe, no biggie.

I think Charlotte had a very unfortunate experience and I'm glad to see it hasn't stopped her from looking forward to future journeys!