i suppose we would like to do Jungfrau
That doesn't sound exactly enthusiastically excited or overwhelmingly committed.
Going up with the train to the Jungfraujoch if you really don't care is a lot of money to waste, which could go to many more things, like feeding the kids for a couple of weeks.
I've been up once, in probably 20 visits to the area. Nothing wrong with it, and the (cold) views are nice until the clouds roll in, but if that isn't what floats your boat don't do it.
There is plenty to do in the area with kids your kids' ages. Walk the valley floor and go up to the waterfalls. Ride some cable cars and walk on the ridges. Cross the valley and go up to Allmendhubel and see the flowers and kiddie playground. Minigolf, the pool and sports area in Mürren. Ride a lake boat. Go to the open air museum. I haven't even started.
Have you read the guidebook? Which one? Have you been to the tourist office website?