My 13 night trip to Spain starts March 12th, or less than 8 days from now. Today I told my parents. There is a lot to unpack:
Just before my solo trip to Italy in July 2017, my mother was super horrified at me, When I told my mom I was going to Greece in 2018, my mother was calmer. When I told my mom I was going to the Netherlands. in 2019, she was not mortified.
I told parents about my mom about my trip to Spain. My mom is frantically horrified, as bad or worse than before I went to Italy. I didn't engage in discussion with her about it my trip to Spain. She told me: I need to cancel my trip, I am putting myself in danger, now is not the time to travel due the war in Ukraine, I have no sense or no street-smarts, I don't care how she feels, I am stupid if I travel, there could be a nuclear war, I might not be able to leave Europe, I could get COVID, and so on. I am not kidding or exaggerating.
My mom has always had phobias of plane travel (she has never taken a plane flight); she has phobias of boat travel, crossing bridges, travel in bad weather, heights, and now COVID-19. For example she won't go to a passover seder or any other event. Yeah she is vaccinated to the maximum.
My dad merely thinks I should take only a one week. He only expressed exasperation that I am going use up all my vacation time for the year. Technically my vacation time resets on my anniversary date at work, June 17.
I feel guilty or stupid due to the possibility of traveling. I wish I could believe this is irrational but I feel worse after seeing my parents today. When I plan a trip, I always feel guilty or stupid, like I am going behind my mom's back breaking the rules, doing something I am not allowed to do.
If this should matter, I am actually 38, I live on my own, I live alone. My one brother is my first contact person I give when asked.
If you had a kid over 30 what would you suggest if your kid told you he was going to take my trip (solo)?
Which of these choices, if any, sounds best?:
-Michael, if you have any sense you will cancel your trip, you are likely to get killed, and so on.
-Travel to Spain should be fine. The violence in Ukraine is highly unlikely to spread to Spain.
-How could you not care how your parents feel?
Should I take my trip and tell my parents I am still taking my trip?
Should I take my trip and lie and tell my parents I canceled my trip to Spain and I am going to Tennesse instead? I need a believable excuse for each Friday evening I don't see them. If so I will have to lie and say my camera died and I didn't figure out how to take pictures with my cell phone, possibly needing to give a bunch of other fake stories. I wish I was kidding.
What about the war in Ukraine? Am I just totally being stupid for not caring about the supposed danger I am putting myself in? Is my mom right or wrong?