If Rome, Florence, and Venice is really the best first time experience I can go with that, I just really don’t want >to spend our entire time visiting art and museums and churches. Is CT not worth all the hassle?
You get lots of different opinions. I feel strongly that there is no “ones size fits all” and no “must sees” for everyone in Italy. Nor can I agree that Rome, Florence, and Venice are “the best first time experience” for Italy. All three are big cities packed with tourists (even in October), and offer little of the “dolce far niente” (the “joy of doing nothing”) that so many look forward to in Italy. You need a smaller town for that.
You have said a number of things that lead me to believe you are looking for a bit of that dolce far niente: “ We also want to do a fair amount of just wandering, aperitivo, people watching and just taking it all in” and “ This is just so different from the typical vacation my husband and I take (always a beach/island vacation) that I’m not even sure what to expect.” I think that people who insist you MUST see the “big 3” on your first visit to Italy are not looking at you as an individual. I really like Jean’s advice:
Maybe the issue you’re having is that you’re listening to others’ expectations of where you should go vs. what >would make a great trip for you.
You have seen such diverse opinions on where to go, with people on both sides expressing their opposite opinions on Venice in particular. How can you choose which advice to take? One person says they “have been to Venice and were underwhelmed”. But the devil is in the details. When did they go, what did they do, how long did they stay? I just goes to show that Venice is not for everyone. As does this post, parts of which I totally agree with, and parts which I think are incorrect:
From a "protect the earth" perspective, it's always a good idea to avoid Venice. It's way too crowded . . .
Venice is indeed too crowded, and I wish people who do not passionately want to see Venice, and take time to learn a bit about her history and culture would stay away.
. . . .one hears more English and Mandarin than Italian in the streets, it's smelly, overpriced and tacky. And it's >sinking into the sea.
The last 2 times we have been there (September of 2022 and Sept. 2023), we saw very few if any Chinese tourists; at least we heard no Mandarin apart from the Asian shopkeepers, restaurant owners, and other working people. And in the back streets of Santa Croce, well away from San Marco, we heard only Italian tourists speaking in 2022. In 2023 we started hearing German, French and English in addition, but English was still not in the majority.
Yes, Venice expensive, due to the cost of moving goods in and trash out all by boat. Smelly? In the 2 months total we have spent there, we experienced nothing “smelly”. But we have not been there in the height of summer. Tacky? You will find tacky tourist shops in Rome, Florence, and any other tourist meccas as well. The trick is to avoid them and find the authentic shops; they do exist.
And yes, Venice is sinking into the sea.
All that being said, no one who has the chance should miss seeing it.
Here I do not agree. As I said above, only people with a burning desire to experience to experience what Venice has to offer should put it on their itinerary. No one should go to Venice, or Florence, or Rome, just because others say they “should” or “must” go.
So what can you do? Watch the RS videos, if you haven’t already. Do you need help finding them on the website? They are all available here: https://www.ricksteves.com/watch-read-listen/video/tv-show
Just scroll down to “Italy” and find the videos to watch online. Also look at guidebooks, both RS and others. See if your library has some DK Eyewitness guides with photos. Maybe something in the photos will call to you.