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Bourdain

This forum probably isn't the prime spot for a few words about Anthony Bourdain, but this is where my friends reside...

As we age, death of people around us hits harder. Maybe that's partially a function of realizing our own impending mortality, but for me the feeling on this one is similar to Zoe DiBlasio's passing last year. With Zoe we were online friends, and with Bourdain the closest I've come to meeting him is a TV segment he did on a late friend of mine, a pizza guru outside Chicago.

But the connection between the two is that I've lost another who thinks like me. Damn it, in this world that number is shrinking. Yes, Anthony Bourdain was about food but he was more about having an explorer's lust for faraway places, with the cuisine being a happy by-product. I've focused on Italy in my travels because I dig the place and it's my ancestral homeland besides, but I've had similarly tactile, visceral experiences in France and Switzerland as well, and truth be told even up in the Maritime Provinces of Canada. Being somewhere else is fun...

Bourdain also had a keen, sardonic eye for the absurd, and I can tell you--and Zoe would attest--is that if one hasn't repeatedly found the theater of the absurd in Italy, all I can say is that you haven't looked hard enough.

My first trip to Italy eight years ago, through a buddy back here we set up a day in Chianti with a transplanted New Yorker named Eugene Martinez, who had spent the last 25 years understanding, enveloping and explaining Florence & its environs to tourists who 'got it'. We were willing subjects, and we spent a magical autumn day in Greve-in-Chianti at Montagliari Winery--cooking, eating, drinking & talking about everything and nothing, the doors of the kitchen wide open to the fall Tuscan breeze and the fading afternoon sun.

After we returned, we stayed in touch through EMail and social media. A couple years later, after another failed attempt of mine to schedule a return trip, he messaged 'come back soon--life is short.' You probably know the rest. Six months later he died in his sleep of a heart attack.

Through Zoe, through Bourdain, and through my friend Eugene, they are telling me now, almost imploring me: Get out there, get out of your comfort zone. Travel and see what the rest of the world has to offer.

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This is lovely and oh, so true. I agree with every word you have so eloquently written, Jay. Thank you.

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"Get out there, get out of your comfort zone. Travel and see what the rest of the world has to offer."
So true...
Great tribute Jay.
Claude

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Thanks for this reminder. For years we mainly stopped traveling, figuring we'd do it when we retired. Among other things, I lost 3 good friends in their 40's, and we both lost our fathers fairly young. We started traveling again and plan to continue to do so (with so much help from this forum!), because tomorrow is not guaranteed.

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Jay,

What a wonderful and poignant tribute! I can very much relate to your comments about "someone who thinks like me", as I lost a close personal friend a couple of years ago who fit that description.

Although I've never met Anthony Bourdain, I enjoyed his unique and colourful way of telling stories, and enjoyed living vicariously with some of the "unusual" meals he sampled. Someone gave me one of his books as a gift, and I enjoyed reading about the behind-the-scenes activities in making the show. He seemed to tolerate most foods, although there was one episode described in the book that took place in Borneo or somewhere, where AB became extremely ill after a meal and had to take antibiotics for a week or more. I'll sure miss him!

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Jay,

Well said... Thank you!

Get out there, get out of your comfort zone. Travel and see what the rest of the world has to offer.

It’s not easy getting out of one’s comfort zone, but once you do, your life is enriched in unimaginable ways, forever.

I just returned from Sicily, and while traveling in this unknown land, I kept reminding myself that Zoe had led the way, and now I was just following in her steps...

Thanks Jay!

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Get out there, get out of your comfort zone. Travel and see what the rest of the world has to offer.

This will scare so many people here as it means putting down the guidebook and just exploring.

It's okay to go to places not in the guidebook; you don't have to stay in a hotel that the guidebook recommends; you don't have to only eat at restaurants that the guidebook recommends; it's okay to skip the "sights" and replace them with just taking in your surroundings.

Be open to new and unexpected experiences. Don't plan out every second of your journey.

Unless, of course, that's what you prefer.

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Yes, Frank, to a certain extent. But realize that Bourdain didn't simply jump headlong into the geographical void. He had staff--especially since he joined The Travel Channel, then CNN, and had a increased budget to work with--do advance intel and would have in each location a 'fixer' to grease the wheels locally. A fellow writer acquaintance of mine was the one for the No Reservations Chicago segment, and related about early days in Bourdain's TV career when he and his staff would be huddled around ATM machines drawing out funds to continue the filming.

We don't have fixers, nor the 'baksheesh' to pay people off (at least I don't!). So we do it the old-fashioned way, by research. While some of us wouldn't mind being beamed into some Italian destination and have to use our wits to knock around the country, that's not my bag. Even with diligent research, I've found visiting first-time destinations have quite enough of the unexpected experiences to satisfy my wanderlust, thank you very much.

Appreciate the compliments, gang.