Allison-
As you can see there are many of us who love Venice and don’t feel guilty about visiting. You shouldn’t either if that’s where you choose to go. I see from one of your older posts that you have considered Venice or Lake Como on a previous trip- obviously you didn’t go since this is now your first trip to Italy.
Lots of Venice haters as well- those are usually folks that only stay a night or 2. Venice needs time.
The problem with recommendations for places like Camogli (for example) are that you can’t fly in to Camogli- so you’ll spend your first day in Italy just traveling more to get there- 3-4 hours by train with at least 1 change? With only 5 days on the ground I would want to GET to where I will spend my 5 days as quickly as possible. Another problem is that you can’t fly home from Camogli either- you would have to spend your final night in or near your departure city whether that is Milan or Pisa or Genoa. All good places to visit and if you are OK with splitting up your 6? nights- that’s fine too.
We’re here to help you get to where you want to go and to share what we know about those places and share tips, transit info, hotel and restaurant recommendations etc.
October is still high tourist season so most everywhere will be crowded. It’s just the way it is now.
Have you considered any of the lakes for your water fix? Stresa on Lake Maggiore is nice and not touristy. Super easy to get to from MXP.
Varenna on Lake Como will be packed and accomodations for October might be hard to find.
We loved Santa Margherita Liguria. Mostly Italian tourists/vacationers. Very good restaurants, sweet little town, ferry access to lots of places.
Some really nice upscale hotels there with terraces w/view etc. But- will require extra travel after your flight and a night spent in your departure city.
Orvieto is lovely. I could easily spend 5 days there and never even venture outside the walls.
Lucca is a good suggestion- easy to get to- good for day trips. Walking or biking the walls with the locals. Relaxing but not near the water. Fly in to Pisa or Florence
Another is Bologna- not as touristy as most cities in Italy. Fly in/out of Bologna- easy tram into center. Yes it’s a larger city. Known as the foodie capital for good reason, day trips to Ravenna- fabulous mosaics, Parma, Modena, Ferrara, etc. Added bonus are the porticoes- if it’s raining it is very easy to be out and about and stay dry!
Salerno- actually on the Amalfi Coast as opposed to Sorrento- not touristy at all. A real town, great restaurants, inexpensive lodging, a sandy beach and lovely waterfront with great views. The evening passegiatta in Salerno is one of the most charming and delightful we have ever experienced. Short train ride to the Greek temples in Paestum. Ferry to AC towns, direct train to Naples and Rome.
Best part is access to AC but no crowds.
Fly in/out of Naples and do check on that new Salerno airport.
Just skimming responses above you can see that choosing just 1 location is most recommended. That would help you feel like you are “living like a local” rather than packing up and moving every 2 days or so. You don’t have to stay in an apartment if you don’t want to. It’s your birthday- why would you want to cook?
Anyway- do come back soon and let us know what you are thinking?
Check out your flight options as well.