Not sure where to put this so put it here....
Another post got me thinking about who knows what and maintaining contact on a trip.
So the question is how much contact on a trip.
Here are a few personal examples
1) in the mid 70s my brother was killed by a drunk driver while my Aunt and Uncler were on vacation in the Smoky Mountains took a day and a half for state police to find them and another day for them to come home.
2). While sitting in our hotel (a nice little chateau) outside Tours France one evening I got a call from a buddy back in the states asking if we were going to make it to dinner with the group that evening. I said it would be to long a drive... so no. (He forgot we were in Europe)
3) while on vacation in the US I got a call that my niece had cancer (it was very aggressive). I said I could be home the next evening. But was told not to as she was not taking visitors at that point. So the information did me no good but ruined the rest of the trip. (After a two year battle She is cancer free the last 12 years)
4). While hiking in the bottom of the New River Gorge I got a call from a buddy of mine.. I NEVER expected my cell phone to work there.
5). While on the Rhine River in Germany I was treated to an ugly American who was using a speaker phone and selfie to give her sister in Chicago a play by play tour of the trip. She seamed you think that she had to yell loud enough for said sister to hear her without using the phone. (I changed ends of the boat).
6). Business communication is an issue. I got a call about a project (not even mine) while on a bus tour in England (day trip to ) I got a call asking for help on a coworkers project that he has screwed up. I texted back that I was on vacation.... and t o call someone else.
I guess the issue is how much contacted to maintain?
I told my brother if my house burns down don’t call me as I can’t put the fire out from Paris. I said when he picked me up at the airport he could let me know on the way to his house that mine had burned down.... I mean if my house is burnt down I can’t undo that so why destroy an expensive vacation on top of that?
Basically I told him if I can’t DO anything about it their is no point in calling me about it.
It is not that I don’t care for my niece but if you don’t want me returning home what is the point of calling me? So I can be miserable with you? The main thing I remember from that trip was that phone call. And that we returned home 4 days early. As non of us felt like doing anything... Frankly the information could have waited until we got home. As we were not. Allowed to see her until we had been home two weeks. So all the call did was ruin that years vacation,
When I travel I leave a three ring binder with a sheet per day listing what I know about that day. Including hotel reservations (if I have them) what I expect to do, where I expect to be and any travel reservations if I have them. Sometimes the sheets are pretty empty saying things like “Germany nears dads cousins house “ and that is it.
If I could afford it I would get a different smart phone so I could not be called and only give the number to my trusted person.
As for work and family issues and such I am on vacation to get away from all that. It is not a relaxing vacation if I have to help a co worker with a problem. I often think that we are just too in touch now days.
On the other hand I called my buddy from the Eiffel Tower to “rub it in”. That was fun... :)
I know this is going to come off self centered but I really do belief two things. One we can’t get away and relax on vacation if we bring our everyday life with us. And two if there is nothing I can DO about something then what good does it do calling me to let me know it happened? If I can do something by all means call me but if I can’t do anything then the only reason you are calling me is to screw with my vacation....