The wedding weekend has happened and I thought I'd give a quick impression while its fresh on my mind.
There were actually 4 events last weekend but we were only invited to the 3 that we knew about before we left. There was an all day event between the bride and groom's immediate families the day before the invitation events. They held a Congolese ceremony that we heard all about and saw videos. The bride's female relatives all had custom dresses made and sent from the DRC for the events. There were special foods, music and the all important gifts to the bride's family.
On Saturday there were 3 events for about 200 family and friends in the groom's town. The first was a greeting at the Marie with a civil ceremony in the middle of the afternoon. As soon as that was finished we all walked into the small beautiful Catholic Church next door where the exuberant religious ceremony took place. There was an African choir that rocked the small church. The last event was the reception at a beautiful, historical event center in a nearby town. It started at 7 PM and we had to leave at 1 AM (two courses before the end and no dancing for us) to get back to Toulouse for our 5 AM taxi to the airport for our next destination. What were we thinking! We had no idea a wedding would last so long...
Ok the thing that started this whole question, what would people be wearing??? The temperature was 95° in the afternoon. The women mostly wore knee length dresses, a few with longer dresses and lots of colorful Congolese dresses (no two were alike!). Of the non-Congolese dresses, they varied from floral patterns, solid light or dark colors and a few sequins. Only the groom's mother and one other woman wore a hat. The men's dress was more unpredictable. I'd say about 1/2 of them wore suits or sports coats and ties. Many of the 20-30 year old guys were quite the fashion statements including one guy with a cute topknot and tight white pants that ended 6" up from his ankles. The most prominent color for men, who weren't making a unique fashion statement, was gray.
I won't even start in on the conversations we had over the course of 3 days there with family and friends in our nonexistent (high school) French. Let's just say it was lively and fun and fortunately there was usually someone around if we got really tangled up trying to converse.
We just tried to go with the flow and people kind of looked out for us because we didn't know what was going on much of the time but we had a great time.